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The Power of Positive Thinking

 Thinking positive attracts positive outcomes!



Romans 12:1-2

Verse 1 says that we should present our bodies — that is, our whole active life — as a living sacrifice which is our spiritual service of worship. So the aim of all life is worship. That is, we are to use our bodies — our whole lives — to display the worth of God and all that he is for us in Christ. Now it makes perfect sense when verse 2 says that, in order for that to happen, our minds must be renewed. Why? Because our minds are not by nature God-worshiping minds. They are by nature self-worshiping minds. That is the spirit of our minds.


The term “the will of God” three biblical meanings.

First, there is the sovereign will of God, that always comes to pass without fail.

Second, there is the revealed will of God in the Bible — do not steal, do not lie, do not kill, do not covet —

And third, there is the path of wisdom and spontaneous godliness — wisdom, where we consciously apply the word of God with our renewed minds to complex moral circumstances, and spontaneous godliness where we live most of our lives without conscious reflection on the hundreds of things we say and do all day. Romans 12:2.

Mentally first then fruit on the outside. “Transform” So transformation is a profound, blood-bought, Spirit-wrought change from the inside out.

Regardless of temperment/environment/how we were raised etc….

When it comes down to it, positive, optimistic people are happier and healthier, and enjoy more success than those who think negatively. The key difference between positive and negative is how what we think about and interpret the events in life.

Research is beginning to reveal that positive thinking is about much more than just being happy or displaying an upbeat attitude. Positive thoughts can actually create real value in your life and help you build skills that last much longer than a smile.

First seek to understand before being understoodPositive and negative thoughts can become self-fulfilling prophecies: What we expect can often come true. Persistent negative thinking can cause mental health problems, including depression.

The first step in controlling your thoughts is awareness.

Identify your negative thoughts. Cognitive behavioral therapy practitioners believe that we have the ability to change our behavior by changing our thoughts. Thoughts are the catalyst that lead to behaviors.


The first step in changing negative thinking is to become aware of it. For many of us, negative thinking is a bad habit – and we may not even know we’re doing it!


  1. Negative people rarely know what they stand for; they only know what they stand against. If the person you’re dealing with isn’t “for” anything positive, they likely have a negative worldview.
  2. Compliments are usually followed by the word “but”. A positive person (and even a neutral person for that matter) can give a compliment. Negative people can’t. What starts out positively (“I really enjoyed the event today”) is inevitably followed by a “but” (“but had they turned the volume down and shortened the message it would have been better.”)
  3. They aren’t accomplishing much with their life. Truly negative people rarely accomplish anything great. Because they are against so much, few people want to work with them. Stalled out careers, a history of frequent job changes, financial trouble and other similar markers often characterize negative people.
  4. They have no vision for the future. A negative person is almost never excited about the future. They have no compelling vision for what should be. They can just tell you why your vision is wrong. When you ask them for alternatives, they rarely have original or well-thought-out ideas.
  5. People who are negative have an issue with pride. They think they are better and smarter than you and by how they talk down at you makes them feel good and it puffs up their oversized ego. Their comments aren’t there to help you; they are there to make you feel inadequate and dumb. When they make you feel dumb, they feel superior and that is where all of this negativity fester from.

Quick TEST:

New Job: (do you think “what if I can’t do this or am I good enough?)

Exercise (do you think pain, change, time, discipline – or my body is going to look great and I can be healthy to live longer) Or, if you feel bad about not exercising or not eating healthy, all you think about is how little willpower you have, how you’re lazy, and how you don’t have any motivation.

Vacation (do you think $$ wasted, work to pack & plan or let’s go and relax and have good time)

Let go from job ( it must have been something I did, or wasn’t good enough or the company is going thru a slump)

Call/email from someone you don’t talk to often (what do they want or try to sell me something or I can’t wait to connect to them.

The waitress brings you a water instead of a tea, do you complain about it so much that everyone at the table knows about it, and get them to bring you another one or do you just drink your water and think it’s no big deal?

Do you think about her day?  Do you try to understand the other person first without getting upset cause you didn’t get what you ordered?


When you see anyone’s name come up on your caller ID, you get an immediate emotional reaction to it. Sometimes you’re thrilled to see the name and can’t wait to take the call. Other times you’re neutral. But sometimes you wince. Whether it’s a phone call, a text or an email, you respond negatively and quietly think “oh no.” That’s a sign that the person’s overall influence in your life has been negative, not positive.

How do you have a positive mindsetWe all have negative moments in our life…. 

Even DAVID was negative especially when he had his “pity party” moments, yet he still knew who to call upon for help.  As Christians we may have our faults and our times of negativity due to the circumstances, however we must keep the faith of knowing where our help comes from. 

Psalm 13 O LORD, how long will you forget me? Forever?

How long will you look the other way?

2How long must I struggle with anguish in my soul,

with sorrow in my heart every day?

How long will my enemy have the upper hand?

3Turn and answer me, O LORD my God!

Restore the sparkle to my eyes, or I will die.


Definition: Negative thinking is the tendency to take the most unfavorable view of situations, or to expect the worst outcome in any circumstances; the practice of looking on the gloomy and dark side of things.

Positiveness is optimism; the tendency or habit of seeing and expecting the good in things; looking on the bright side; anticipating favorable results; hopefulness.

Bible says a lot about negative thinking….

  1. Giving place to negative thinking only bears bad fruit.

Proverbs 23:7 [If you give place to negative thoughts, you will become a negative person.] For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.

Proverbs 15:13 [Sad and negative thoughts weaken our spirits and lead to discouragement.] By sorrow of the heart, the spirit is broken.

Luke 6:45 [Those whose hearts and minds are filled with negative thoughts usually spread them by voicing them.] A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good: and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.

Romans 8:6,7 [Negative thinking is not walking in “newness of life,” but in the old carnal nature which is against God.] For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. 7 Because the carnal mind is enmity [hostile] against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be. [See also Eph.4:17.]

1 Corinthians 13:5 [If we’re walking in love, we don’t think negatively towards others.] [Love] doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil.

Hebrews 12:15 [Harboring negative, critical thoughts can lead to bitterness.] Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God, lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled.


Eph 4:21 Since you have heard about Jesus and have learned the truth that comes from him,throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes.

Take every one of your thoughts (beliefs, imaginations, dreams, and ideas) captive to the obedience of Christ. (II Corinthians 10:5)

Since all of your emotions, words and actions originate in your mind and heart, you can wake up every morning with the assurance that you have the power to control how you feel, what you say and how you act all day long.

No one is a victim. Guard your heart; you are what you think. (Proverbs 23:7) Also, whatever thoughts you sow into your mind, you will reap the consequences. (Galatians 6:7) You become what you think!

Spend a few seconds reflecting on what you are today and what you have. Everything about you is the result of what you have been thinking your whole life.

Day dreaming is thinking, planning is thinking, imagining is thinking, reacting to circumstances is thinking and wishing things could have been different for you is thinking. Your beliefs are your thoughts grouped together over many years.

One of the greatest truths in life: It’s not what happens to you (your past, present or future circumstances) or what people do or say to you that cause your emotions.

 Your emotions come from what you think about after things happen to you! You control all of your emotions by what you think. Emotions are simply data telling you what you have been thinking.



Also, listen to your words and watch your actions and let them tell you what your heart looks like.

We can over ride any past thoughts and transform my life by the renewing of my mind

Let your mind dwell on only these eight powerful, life-changing words: true, honorable, right, pure, beautiful, adorable, excellent and praise worthy. (Philippians 4:8, 9)

No one controls how you think and thus, no one has the power to control how you feel, speak or act any longer.

You are never the victim of others or circumstances.

What Negative Thoughts Do to Your Brain

Let’s say that you’re walking through the forest and suddenly a tiger steps onto the path ahead of you. When this happens, your brain registers a negative emotion — in this case, fear.

Researchers have long known that negative emotions program your brain to do a specific action. When that tiger crosses your path, for example, you run. The rest of the world doesn’t matter. You are focused entirely on the tiger, the fear it creates, and how you can get away from it.

In other words, negative emotions narrow your mind and focus your thoughts. At that same moment, you might have the option to climb a tree, pick up a leaf, or grab a stick — but your brain ignores all of those options because they seem irrelevant when a tiger is standing in front of you.

This is a useful instinct if you’re trying to save life and limb, but in our modern society we don’t have to worry about stumbling across tigers in the wilderness. The problem is that your brain is still programmed to respond to negative emotions in the same wayby shutting off the outside world and limiting the options you see around you.

For example, when you’re in a fight with someone, your anger and emotion might consume you to the point where you can’t think about anything else. Or, when you are stressed out about everything you have to get done today, you may find it hard to actual start anything because you’re paralyzed by how long your to–do list has become.

In each case, your brain closes off from the outside world and focuses on the negative emotions of fear, anger, and stress — just like it did with the tiger. Negative emotions prevent your brain from seeing the other options and choices that surround you. It’s your survival instinct.


What Positive Thoughts Do to Your Brain

Fredrickson tested the impact of positive emotions on the brain by setting up a little experiment. During this experiment, she divided her research subjects into 5 groups and showed each group different film clips.

The first two groups were shown clips that created positive emotions. Group 1 saw images that created feelings of joy. Group 2 saw images that created feelings of contentment.

Group 3 was the control group. They saw images that were neutral and produced no significant emotion.

The last two groups were shown clips that created negative emotions. Group 4 saw images that created feelings of fear. Group 5 saw images that created feelings of anger.

Afterward, each participant was asked to imagine themselves in a situation where similar feelings would arise and to write down what they would do. Each participant was handed a piece of paper with 20 blank lines that started with the phrase, “I would like to…”

Participants who saw images of fear and anger wrote down the fewest responses. Meanwhile, the participants who saw images of joy and contentment, wrote down a significantly higher number of actions that they would take, even when compared to the neutral group.

In other words, when you are experiencing positive emotions like joy, contentment, and love, you will see more possibilities in your life. These findings were among the first that proved that positive emotions broaden your sense of possibility and open your mind up to more options.

TALK ABOUT LEAVING A LEGACY! You create the environment. That is power in your thoughts!


  1. Keep a gratitude journal. Remind yourself of your blessings.
  2. Focusing on the positive. Push out all feelings that aren’t positive. When you hear the voice in your head say something negative, take a pause and substitute the negative for something positive.ONLY focus on the good things in your life. Realize that your thoughts do not own you. Stop letting negative thoughts control you.
  3. Only use positive words when talking. Stop CURSING your self!
  4. Practice positive affirmation. One of the most popular positive thinking exercises is positive affirmation. This means you repeat a positive phrase to yourself on a regular basis like “I deserve to be happy” or “I am worthy of love”. Believing that these things are true, and reminding yourself of it can help give you a more positive outlook on life.
  5. Believe you will succeed. Believe in yourself.
  6. Forgive yourself. Stop being your own worst critic. Don’t dwell on mistakes.
  7. Let go of the past. It does not determine your future so why focus on it? If you feel yourself ruminating on the past make a conscious effort to take your thoughts in another direction.
  8. Remember things could be worse. Understand that the situation is not forever.
  9. LOOK at your circumstances as an opportunity. Look at the big picture. Visualize a successful outcome.
  10. Relax and let things happen. See it from another point of view.
  11. Avoid negative people.
  12. Do something nice.
  13. Avoid laying blame. So the water bill didn’t get paid. You could get mad and start a fight with your spouse or roommate. Or, you could let it go, take it in stride and work together to remedy the situation.
  14. Be playful. Engage in physical activity – DO SOMETHING NEW.
  15. Listen to something upbeat. Music can be a great mood enhancer.
  16. Monitor your stream of consciousness. Focus on great memories – PHOTOS
  17. Concentrate on breathing. When things just seem to be too much to deal with, try concentrating on simply breathing.
  18. Find something to laugh about.
  19. Face up to change.
  20. Focus on finding a solution. Don’t wallow in your problems. Instead, work towards finding a solution and getting them resolved. You’ll be able to feel proactive and feel in control of your life.
  21. Believe the world is a good place.
  22. Stop making excuses. Take control of your decisions.
  23. Don’t play the victim. Bad things happen to everyone from time to time. Pitying yourself and wanting others to feel sorry for you isn’t going to make things better. Pick yourself up and start working towards a happier future.
  24. Don’t place your future in someone else’s hands. Your future is yours alone to shape. Remember this and take control of where you’re going in life.
  25. Create realistic goals.
  26. Choose joy. Every day when you wake up you make the choice whether to be happy or miserable.
  27. Believe you deserve good things and know who you are in Christ. If you don’t truly believe that you deserve good things in your life you likely aren’t going to encounter many. Believe that you are worthy for good fortune to come your way and it just might.
  28. Sometimes all it takes to feel good is to put a smile on your face. Practice putting on a happy face even when you just feel so-so.

Positive thinking usually attracts positive people, events, and outcomes. If you want to create an environment where you’re successful and satisfied, you’ll need the power of positive thinking on your side and that comes with renewing your mind with God’s Word and having Jesus centered in your life.

Our life becomes a spiritual act of worship and displays the worth of Christ above the worth of the world, when we allow him to renew our mind. Are you ready to put that into action?  Leave a comment below and let me know your great tips!

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Never A Bad Hair Day – Part One

Today is a new day for everyone.  I am not a morning person.  My hair is crazy, I have black under my eyes and I wonder around the house with unmatched pajamas.  Even when the sun is shining, I still complain and say, “It hurts my eyes”.  I have astigmatism and the morning light is not so nice on my eyes.  I also have to reach for the cup of coffee and take time to wake up.  I don’t like to talk or look in the mirror.  My husband on the other hand, bounces out of bed, whistling a tune and makes up the bed.  There is a sigh of relief that my husband takes time to help me with acts of service but on the other hand, the whistling and the chipper mood makes my head want to explode sometime.  No, really I am thankful he is so positive, upbeat and excited about the new day.  He usually comes in the kitchen wanting to aggravate us in some form or another and smiling the mischievousness grin.  He has his day mapped out and usually wants to know my plans.  How can I know what I am going to do with my head looking like a tornado?

Every morning we all plan our day or at least sort of know what is going to happen.  We can all look forward to the future or we can look back at the past.  Many times our entire day and how it goes depends on us believing if today is a new day and if it will be a good one or not.  So many times we let outside influences determine the day we are going to have.  If we wake up and have a bad hair day or if something breaks down or if one of the little ones get sick then we automatically think the rest of the day will be horrible too.  What we have to change is the mindset of what we are accustomed to. Just because the morning may have a few bumps doesn’t mean the rest of the day will be bad.  Just because we made a mistake yesterday or in our past doesn’t mean our future will be always reaping what we wish we wouldn’t have done.

Here is a list of things I do to start off the day right. Get enough sleep and if you need help, I know the answer and for me is taking Benadryl.   It is difficult to have a great day when you are tired and edgy. We often under-estimate how much sleep we really require but most of us need about eight hours.  If you have little ones still getting up through the night, a nap is perfect for the early afternoon.  Although I don’t often get to take a nap, sometime my body just craves a quick rest to help me feel better for the evening.  However, when I take those naps it leaves me still awake till almost midnight.   Another tip is to begin your morning with good thoughts. Instead of reviewing your list of “to-dos”, as you get out of bed, try filling your first thoughts of the day with some positive thoughts and remind yourself of five things for which you are grateful, read your devotion and say a prayer.  Don’t forget, you can also read MelissaMonAmie!  Every  morning as soon as I wake up, I tell myself, “Today is going to be a great day, what Lord do you want me to do today?”   I don’t ever want to get out of the bed on the wrong side.   Another tip I try to practice is take a few deep breaths.  Deep breathing helps get the toxins out, give energy and is a form of stress relief.   Start slowly as you fill your lungs with oxygen expand your diaphragm, hold it for a few seconds and breath out.   My husband is always telling me to work out and I know that it is something I should work on but for some of us, me for instance are not so structured or discipline to make it a habit.  However, I have found when I do take time to take a short walk sometime in the morning hours, it is very helpful with gaining my thoughts to positive and again relieve stress.   I do also make it a lifestyle habit of having a healthy breakfast. Breakfast does not have to be elaborate but you will feel better throughout the day if you eat something healthy in the morning. A piece of fruit, some complex carbohydrates such as whole grain, and a little protein (almonds or yogurt), will do the trick!  My favorite is yogurt, or a small bowl of regular oatmeal, fresh blueberries and a little bit of honey.

It takes me a while to wake up and I have found it easier to face the day if I don’t make any major decisions early in the morning before doing all of these things.  If I don’t have a routine, then I get sidetracked.  I can start my day off right, get side tracked and finish the blog up in the afternoon.  That is something I don’t want to get started.  Discipline is a must and I am conquering one at a time.  Give yourself a break from routine.  Some days, I like to stay in my sweats or pajamas and just do nothing except read or watch a movie, however I wouldn’t recommend this on a daily basis but every now and then doesn’t hurt.  As I get older, those days tend to come more often.  My mother has a few words to say about mornings too.  She says to get dressed right away because you never know what is going to happen or who is going to stop by.  For some reason I still don’t listen to positive advice from her and insist on doing it my way.  We all need to learn from our mothers but as daughters and yes the child in us wants to defile wisdom sometimes.

Today is a new day, tomorrow is a new day and the day after that is a new day.  I can determine each day to face it with faith, hope and a positive outlook no matter what my hair tends to do or what others think of me.  I will wake up tomorrow and be happy and thankful for another chance to make a difference in this world.

Prayer:  Lord, I know I am not perfect, just forgiven and set free from a life of worry and sorrow.  I thank you for giving me mercy, grace and your heart to reach others.  In Jesus name.  Amen.

Matthew 6:11  New International Version (©1984)
Give us today our daily bread….

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Destiny Determination and Potential

Potential is not what I have done, it is what I have not done but I still can do.  Potential is not what I have, it is what I do not have but still can.  Potential is not who I am, it is who I am not but can still be. It is possible, as opposed to actual. Within every one of us lies great potential, great possibilities  because we are a promise from the seed of Abraham in the family of Jesus.

Jesus said that we would do greater things than he, so talk about potential!  So what is holding us back from reaching our potential?  We need to think more positive about our potential instead of fear what lies ahead or of the unknown and cast away the “what ifs”.

To try to explain about potential, think about everyone having four boxes – two on top and two below. The first in the upper left was our potential. We all have lots. The second box in the upper right has the actions we take – usually weak because of fears of failure and making fools of ourselves. On the bottom right is the results box. These are weak because of the lack of strong actions. This box points to the bottom left box which holds our beliefs. Of course, the weak results just enforce the belief that we can’t succeed, leading back up to our potential. Now, we question our potential. And the vicious cycle has begun even though we all have the potential we need.  We must realize and believe that it takes guts to succeed. Plus, we must have the certainty that we can and will do what it takes. We do have the requisite potential.

How do we take the box of potential and put into action what we need to make it happen?  What shapes us to go beyond ourselves?  Achievement?  Fulfillment?  Appreciation and contribution can shape us.  It starts with mindset.  It is a decision put into an action.  What is the real reason why people don’t accomplish or reach their potential?  There are many excuses such as, didn’t have knowledge, time, background, money, resources however these are not the defining factor.  Human emotion is very profound that can block or promote potential.  If we can get through the emotion we can find a way to reach our goals and live out the destiny created for us.

There are three decisions we can make to determine our destiny.  We make these every moment of our lives, everyday.  Three questions you need to ask yourself.

1.  What am I going to focus on?  Feelings, Past/Present/Future, self or others.

2.  What does it mean?  Beginning or End, am I being punished or rewarded.

3.  What are you going to do?  Move forward or give up.

We must learn to grow and to give.  Many people who face death decide to live or to die.  If we focus on Upward, Inward to Outward to form a cross, the image of what Jesus did for us we can change our mindset.  When we only focus on ourselves and our emotions then we are unwilling to grow spiritually.  When we continue to be emotionally and spiritually immature therefore we cannot reach our potential.   Once we know how to and also give to others to make a difference, we then will start seeing our potential become reality.

Prayer:  Lord, help us all to see our potential in the things you have shaped for our destiny.  It takes a made up mind to pursue your will and your word to live by.  I am thankful it is with you leading and guiding us all to fulfill and see our potential come to pass.  In Jesus name.  amen.

New International Version (©1984)
John 14:12  I tell you the truth, anyone who has faith in me will do what I have been doing. He will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father.

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Overwhelming Tasks

overwhelming tasks

 Do you ever find yourself looking at a task and wonder how in the world can I get this accomplished?  I have several of those staring me in the face as we speak.  Sometimes I don’t worry about it because all that stuff in the closet is not going anywhere.  I have watched my son wait till the last moment to do a big project because it seems so big and time consuming.  The old saying is, “How can you eat an elephant? Start with one piece at a time.”   I have come to the conclusion; the task is only overwhelming when we allow it to be in our mind.  Our mind can be a very powerful tool for the positive or for the negative.  If we focus only on the negative side, the project or task at hand will continue to be put off yet if we think positively we can see it as accomplished and organized.  This type of mindset takes time and practice.  My closet upstairs with all that clutter is my treasure box.  It is where I keep my pictures, scrapbooks, newspaper clippings of the boys, artist work, costumes, gift bags and gifts, candles, books, crafts, baskets, files, and such.  Yes, it does need organization and I know it will take a couple of days to arrange it.  So, what is the problem?  Time.  Scheduling time.  My calendar is already booked daily for the next two months with photography, so this overwhelming task must be eaten with small bites.  My schedule changes today!  Just by writing it down, I already feel better and see myself accomplishing it.

Just as my walk with Jesus Christ may sometimes seem overwhelming in my position I have with people.  I am a leader and a Christian one at that.  I have the gift of Administration and Rulership, so in other words, I like to delegate or tell people what to do.  What is so overwhelming is I must choose my words wisely.  I am still working on my showing mercy gift although I do have patience.   It’s funny because my personality is Sanguine, so I like to have fun and am not so disciplined.  Jeff said it this morning as we were drinking our cup of coffee.  Being a Christian is not hard.  You must have the mindset to follow Christ with words and actions.  To live for Jesus easy is hard, but to live for Jesus hard is easy.   Anything can be overwhelming if we let it, however when we look at the project in future tense already accomplished, whatever the goal is, it makes it easy to finish it.  Our life here on earth may seem overwhelming at times, but when we look down in the future and see that it will all be worth it walking on the streets of gold with our Savior then we will continue to accomplish what we need to do.  I have seen many people start a project and bail out later.  Sometimes people are builders and sometimes bankers.  The builders usually start a project and go on to other things because being a banker means you must take care of it and be responsible for the outcome.  Some people won’t discipline themselves to be good stewards or managers. My husband’s focus is being both a builder and banker.  He is very disciplined when it comes to tasks and bringing unity and team effort.look up, look foward

The next time you feel overwhelmed when embarking upon a situation or task, look up.  Project your mind into the future and see it already accomplished.  Being a Christian and a disciplined one at that, takes practice and a change of mind.  Think positive; be proactive and not reactive in any situation.  Use wise words and be wise in actions.  May Christ give us faith, and increase our faith, that we may not only be safe, but joyful and triumphant.

Prayer:  Lord, forgive me for not doing those things in which you have called me to do because I may have thought they were overwhelming or if I had fear.  Help me to change my mindset, renew my mind daily.  I want to live for you hard, so I ask for the fruit and the gifts of Your Spirit.  Teach me; let me lean upon you for rest, lead me into the direction in which I can be most productive and disciplined.  I want to be obedient to your voice.  In Jesus Name, Amen. 

Galatians 6:9  Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. (NIV)

I Corinthians 15:59  Therefore, my dear brothers, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.  (NIV)