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A Self Test To Determine If You are Under the Influence of a Religious Spirit

The word of God says we can recognize a tree by the fruit that it bears (Matthew 12:33-37).

Many times we get hurt in the Christian world due to opinions of others or the expectations of others of what they think we should be, do or say.  Communication is not the followed protocol therefore it becomes easy to express your viewpoint to others, hurting the one not present in the aftermath.  Pastors and other leaders are the target. I have found through research it is the “religious spirit” in work and not always the unlearned new believer that causes the hurt.

 A person with the spirit of religion will produce more division than lasting works.

The aftermath of a religious spirit is like a wave of bitterness with a ripple effect that prevents many people from being all they can be in Christ or even turning people the other way and not serving God at all.  The taste of blood from a “preacher did them wrong” can sometimes be irreversible for years until their heart melts and walls are torn down for healing all because a religious spirit pukes on a believer their opinion.

Family bonds within a church community works with communication.  If a brother offends you as the Word tells us, go to him or her and talk about the offense to see if you are “correct” in your own mind versus a sin.  Most of the time it is an opinion  of what is believed it should be versus the latter. Religion and relationship don’t get along, and this is why religious spirits will work diligently to hinder true meaningful relationships between God and His children.

A religious spirit is a demon that wages war against the grace of God in our lives and acceptance of Jesus’ work as. When ritual controls our relationships this is Religion. Ritual minus relationship equals religion. The spirit of religion is an agent of Satan assigned to prevent change and to maintain the status quo by using religious devices.The Pharisees were obvious examples of people who have religious spirits although we would never compare our own behavior to them, a religious spirit is very destructive to our intimate relationships with God.

Religious spirits are more interested in judgment than forgiveness and grace

Religious spirits can manifest in different ways for different people.

It is important to understand that to be influenced does not mean to be possessed, but rather simply means to be:

  • Affected
  • Inspired
  • Moved
  • Swayed
  • Motivated

Most of us are subject to religious spirits to some degree. Paul exhorts us to “test ourselves to see if we are in the faith”, (2 Corinthians 13:5).

HERE IS A LITTLE TEST TO SEE IF YOU HAVE BEEN INFLUENCED BY A SPIRIT OF RELIGION: CHECK ALL THAT APPLY

Do you listen with a critical ear rather than an open heart

Do you have a tendency to see your primary mission as tearing down what you believe is wrong verses seeing the person’s Godly fruit or Christian walk

Do you feel as though it is your mission to point out or tear down or express your opinion to others when you think something is wrong instead of going to the source

Are you more inclined to see what is wrong with churches rather than what is right and feel the need to “fix” the issues you think is wrong

Do you use gossip and slander to assassinate other peoples’ character and may even use violence to prove your point or even be suspicious of others motives

Do you have a sense that you are closer to God than other people

Do you ever feel like you can never be good enough

You perform Christian duties but have no passion or hunger for God

Do you take pride in your spiritual routine of prayer and other ministries in which you feel you are more qualified to lead than other people or groups and maybe feel as though you have the best team or leadership

Do you hold a grudge against someone who did you wrong

Interested in seeing somebody pay or be punished for their wrongdoing or their past instead of seeing them repent and receive forgiveness and grace from God

Do you reject progress or refuse to embrace change, therefore buck the system, disagree with your leaders or new ministries in the church

Do you see yourself following certain rules, or regulations regarding the outward man, in order to be in right standing with God.  This would include dressing a certain way, legalism, working or earning your salvation

Judging people by their appearance or overreact to carnality or immaturity of the church

Do you feel the need of having recognition and titles in the church world or receive identity in the things in attempt to do for God and church

Do you make a big deal about the doctrines accumulated through head knowledge

Do you use emotionalism as a substitute for the work of the holy spirit or if emotion isn’t expressed believe the Holy Spirit is being hindered

Do you appear righteous but inside filled with anger, resentment and envy

Do you believe you are on the cutting edge of what God is doing and closer to God than your leaders or friends

Are you unable to take rebuke or have a philosophy that you only listen to God

Do you feel an overwhelming guilt you couldn’t ever be good enough

Do you glory more in what God has done in the past rather than in what God is doing in the present or use the words for God to move we must do this as we did back then

D0 you ever feel as though you are not saved, doubt God

THE COUNTERFEIT GIFT OF DISCERNMENT

A religious spirit gives birth to a counterfeit gift of discernment of spirits. This counterfeit gift thrives on seeing what is wrong with others rather than seeing what God is doing to help them along. If you checked on the self-test, you tend to have a counterfeit gift of discernment. Its wisdom is rooted in the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, and thought the truth may be accurate; it is ministered in a spirit that kills. Suspicion, which is motivated by rejection, territorial preservation or general insecurity, causes this counterfeit gift. However the true gift of discernment can only function with love. In 2 Corinthians 11:13-15, Paul warns them about those who minister in a religious spirit that they try to place a yoke of legalism on the believers. Religions that are based on works will tend to become violent easily, especially when confronted with those who live by faith. This includes “Christian Religions” where a doctrine of works has supplanted the cross of Christ. Those who are driven by religious spirits may try to destroy the true Christian by onslaughts of slander.

THE SPIRIT OF JEZEBEL

The Spirit of Jezebel is a combination of the religious spirit and the spirit of witchcraft that is the spirit of manipulation and control. This spirit is often found in deeply wounded people. Every trial in our lives will either make us bitter or better, and the cross will heal every spiritual wound if we will turn to it. Those who are deeply wounded who do not go to the cross can open themselves up to this evil spirit. The Jezebel spirit is one of the enemy’s most potent forms of the religious spirit that seeks to keep the church and the world from being prepared for the Lord. This spirit attacks the prophetic ministry through which the Lord wants to give timely, strategic direction to His people. Jezebel knows that by removing the true prophets, the people will be vulnerable to her false prophets, which always leads to idolatry and spiritual adultery. When there is a void of the true prophetic word, the people will be much more prone to the deception of the enemy. A religious spirit produces religious pride so that God will not communicate with those who are proud. In Matthew 15:14, Jesus called the religious leaders of the day “blind guides”. A primary strategy of the religious spirit is to get the church devoted to sacrifice in a way that perverts the command for us to take up our crosses daily. This perversion will have us putting more faith in our sacrifices than in the Lord’s sacrifice. It will also use sacrifices and offerings to try to get God to manifest Himself. This is a form of the terrible delusion that we can somehow purchase the grace and presence of God with our good works.

Religious spirits hold people in spiritual slavery. The battle against this spiritual slavery can only be won by unconditional love, in living the Christian life focused on Jesus and the Word of God and being filled with the Holy Spirit.

If you have been affected by the Religious Spirit, take time to ask our Heavenly Father to forgive and to allow us to practice grace instead of judging, to show grace more than pointing out faults and to be humble, full of joy as we lead others by example producing much fruit for the glory of God.  Rebuke the spirit of religion out of your life, resist and walk forward into your identity as the sons and daughters of Jesus Christ, the Lord above all.

God Bless!

Melissa

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Family Life – We Are Family

This past Sunday, as a family, we were speaking in three different states.  Jeff, my husband was in Tennessee, our oldest son, Lyle and his wife Allison was speaking in Washington DC and the other boys and I here in Owensboro, Kentucky.  

As I look over the years, my boys now men raising their own families, it came down to asking them questions as their viewpoint of how our family was considered in this topic.  We all want to be better parents than our own parents or at least I did so I asked them the same questions. It’s not that we had ‘bad’ parents, it’s just that we all have different personalities, opinions and different parenting styles.  We all change somewhat as we become parents ourselves however the distinct pattern of parenting of programing will linger in some areas.

WHEN THERE IS AN EMOTION/FEELING/PAIN/or CONSISTENCY attached to a routine/instance, children will remember. If your children are grown, take them on a trip of memory lane and ask them these questions too.  Tears were brought to my eyes, just listening to the fun times of family moments.  Our family was not perfect and we survived!

Our message this past Sunday I put together this outline and I am having Bryson, Jordan and Spencer up on the platform with me to go over some things.  

 

Here are my notes on “We Are Family” message.

There are many kinds of families.

2 parents,

Single parents

Absent parent

Grandparent raising grandchildren – great-grandchildren

Families are much more than  of people who share the same genes or the same address.

Family should be a source of love and support. Blood is thicker than water….

Every family is different. But many families face similar issues. No family is perfect and if you spent a day with another family, you might not see their flaws. But live with them for a month and surely you would. Everyone does not get along all the time. Conflicts are a part of family life.

While the specifics of the problems you go through will be unique to your family, it can be reassuring to know that you’re not alone.

Myths about Family Life

  1. Good families do not have problems.
  2. If you are a good parent your child will not have problems.
  3. Raising children is easy. You should not feel stressed as a parent.
  4. Well-adjusted people balance parenting, work, and personal life with ease.
  5. Therapy is only for really troubled families. 

The truth is, normal, healthy, well-adjusted families often encounter problems. The top 12 problems in families:

  1. Communication Problems
  2. Financial problems
  3. Stress/Exhaustion
  4. Parenting Concerns/Boundaries
  5. Divorce Adjustment/Blended Families
  6. Lack of trust/respect in a relationship
  7. Frequent arguing or Disagreements/Angry outbursts
  8. Physical conflict
  9. Alcohol or drug use
  10. Difference in opinions, personalities, beliefs, values or goals
  11. Issues relating to sexuality
  12. Negative emotions – anger, sadness, anxiety – Feeling isolated, alone or withdrawn

Genesis 1:27 So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.

Then God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it.

Genesis 4:1-2 Now Adam knew Eve his wife, and she conceived and bore Cain, saying, “I have gotten a man with the help of the LORD.”

Later she gave birth to his brother Abel.

Genesis 4:8

While they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and killed him.

Was God the perfect parent? Did God fail as a Father?

In the beginning after God created man, he soon acknowledged that man should not be alone. So he created a companion to be with Adam. The act of putting Adam and Eve together shows us that relationships are important to God.  So every human since then has been born into a primary social group (family) to connect with.

There is something wonderful about God making sure that we are always connected and not alone. God sees relationship as essential in making us successful creations. Even though our family sometimes annoys and embarrasses us, it might actually be worse if they didn’t exist. The role of the family then is to love and keep a connection with us.

The very first family in all of history = dysfunction

  1. The curse of sin entered into this world that you and I are still paying for.
  2. God kicked them out of the garden to fend for themselves and life became immeasurably harder. They experienced for the first time pain and hardship and they brought two boys into this world who grew up and jealousy arose between them.

The perfect family is a mirage in the desert. This expectation of perfection is that dis-empowers us from investing in our own families and if we compare our family to this false image of the perfect family, we give up…. Divorce happens etc…

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Throughout the years, I may not have always used the Word in the content of love, so what was our Scriptures the boys remember most?

FAMILY SCRIPTURES – Phillips family Scriptures we instilled in our children:

God didn’t give us Spirit of fear, but of power, love and sound mind

Reap what you sow

Sin you will always find you out

Disobedience is same as witchcraft

Greater is he than he that is in the world

Repent and be baptized every one you and you shall get the holy ghost

QUESTION: WHAT SCRIPTURES CAN YOU REMEMBER THE MOST GROWING UP IN YOUR FAMILY LIFE?  Boys will answer.

Train

Train up a child in the way they should go and they shall not depart from it. To choose to be around others that are up to no good, you will get in trouble to. We tried to be the best parents that we could be and protect them the best we knew how.

Accountability

No one is without authority. In Romans 13:1, Paul tells us that we should submit to authority over us.   HONOR….God does not want us to be without direction. When we submit ourselves to family, there is so much we can learn and helpful suggestions we can get. God put many people in our lives to help support our journey in discovering him and ourselves. We all can learn something from everyone in our family.

Blind spot

Our blind spot is an area that we cannot see. As a child, we feel like our family doesn’t quite see us for who we are, but for who they want us to be. They don’t recognize our gifts and talents and acknowledge our ideas, but instead put their experience and wisdom above ours.

In life, the thing we need the most…. is the thing we don’t give enough of. So if we feel like our parents don’t respect us, then we don’t give respect. If we feel as if someone is not trying to understand us, then we don’t try to understand.

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Understanding that conflict is normal is the first step in learning to deal with these situations. It is important for families to learn appropriate ways to deal with problems that will promote growth and cohesion.

Poor Family Communication

  • The conflict in this arrangement is that there are no opportunities to discuss family values, issues and other important topics; this often leads to disagreements. Communication conflicts are also present in families that lack healthy communication skills and engage in yelling, cursing, blaming and insulting.    
  • Parent-Child Power Struggles: A parent-child power struggle can create conflict and stress for the entire family. Having a child who wants to control the parent leads to increased parent frustration and decreased patience when dealing with other family members. The other children often feel that the defiant child is receiving more attention and may start acting out them.

QUESTION: WHO IN OUR FAMILY SEEM TO HAVE MOST POWER STRUGGLE? Boys will answer

  1. Talk– communication is the key and often the first step to finding solutions. Be calm and honest about your concerns when discussing your problems with a loved one. Communication issues are usually at the root of most relationship problems
  2. Accept your differences– it can help avoid unnecessary conflict if you can recognize that people have different ideas, opinions and beliefs and you may not always be in agreement. Agree to disagree. Fighting fair.
  3. Have fun together– even when things are tough, it’s important to find the time to have fun with your loved ones.

QUESTION: WHAT IS ONE WAY YOUR FAMILY HAD FUN TOGETHER? (Vacations/play games/dad involved in sports/ mom let us make home movies/ paint faces /sledding)

4.          Staying Close Knit – It’s all too easy for family members to drift apart. That’s why regular family meals (whether it’s breakfast or dinner or even weekly meals if members are living apart) are so important; ask basic questions at dinnertime (e.g., what went well this week and what we’re looking forward to next week) while you’re all still living together.

Keep up important daily and weekly family traditions, such as weekly game night—even when everyone gets seemingly too busy for everything else. Keep up important daily and weekly family traditions, such as weekly game night—even when everyone gets seemingly too busy for everything else.

QUESTION: WHAT IS ONE THING YOU CAN REMEMBER ABOUT MEAL TIME/SHARE TIME? (Bless the food, restore, prayer time , what happened at school)

5.    Balancing Work and Home Life/ Getting the Family Organized – If life were perfect we’d have enough time to pursue our dreams and also spend as much quality time with our family as we want every day. This being the real world, we all struggle with work-life balance. Remember, it’s quality time that matters most—those micro-moments of connection we share every day, rather than quantity (although quantity matters too!). It’s hard enough getting yourself organized. Through a partner and possibly kids into the mix and chaos can quickly ensue.

QUESTION: WHAT IS ONE THING YOU CAN REMEMBER? (Laid clothes out/ironing clothes….lunch money, etc)

6.          Agreeing on Parenting Decisions/Boundaries – The biggest parenting decision is whether or not to have kids in the first place. After that, you and your partner might disagree on things like discipline, saving for college, teaching them religion, and even lying about Santa. This is another one of those “choose your battles” topics—fight for what actually matters most (which daycare or school to send your kids to) and let go of or compromise on the rest (whose turn it is to give the baby a bath).

QUESTION: WHO WAS EASIER TO TALK TO? (Boundaries)

7.          Handling Arguments – There are good fights, the kind that clear the air, and then there are bad fights, the kind that expose and further widen the cracks in our relationships’ foundations. Sometimes it’s all a matter of how we argue, not what we’re arguing about. Use a more rational (rather than emotionally charged) approach when you argue and offer the solution first to help keep the peace in your family. Fighting in front of your kids isn’t a bad thing, either.

QUESTION: HOW DID YOU HANDLE ARGUMENTS? BETWEEN PARENT/CHILD/SIBLINGS

8.          Divvying Up Chores – Speaking of chores, just about no one enjoys doing them, but unless everyone pitches in family members can start to feel resentful. Chores also teach kids important lessons.

QUESTION: WHAT WAS YOUR CHORES? HOW DID YOUR PARENTS GET YOU TO DO YOUR CHORES?

So every human is born into a (family) to connect with.

God makes sure that we are always connected and not alone.

God sees relationships as essential part of making us successful and find abundant living as well as leave a legacy! .

The role of the family then is to love and keep a connection to pass on to future generations. Agree? WE ARE FAMILY!

What are they going to do better?

Better with own children: Resolving conflict resolution – without disconnect

Thru the busiest, try not to have seasons being disconnected.  Connection is important!

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The Gift Within

I Timothy 4:14

Neglect not the gift that is in thee…..

Everyday I see people come in and out of my life.  My contacts may be from the Church we pastor or the Juice Bar that I own and operate.  What I do know in the many people who I see or talk to, is that they are people and people desire relationship with someone who is going to give them hope.  They also desire someone they can do life with, to share experiences and dreams with.  They want people to inspire them, encourage and pray for them.

Just this past week, I had a customer come thru the doors with tears streaming down her face, crying.  I gave her a glass of “happy berry juice” and also a smoothie as she waited patiently for me to finish.  Then upon leaving, I hugged her and prayed for her.  She gripped me tightly as she explained her grandmother was on her death-bed and that she knew it was a matter of time. This saddened me also.  Her hug was so deep and tight, she needed comfort, like a child with a mother.  This touched my heart deeply.  The ironic thing, this is not a one time experience for me.  It has happened several times.  Ministry…..

I experienced life of stress and parenting in my twenty’s and thirty’s.  In my forty’s I felt like I was searching for significance and career as well as my identity since I was no longer raising children in the home.  It has taken me over 54 years to discover this.  What I have inside me is a gift.  A gift to give to others.  There is no one like me and there is no one like you.  We all are created unique and we all have gifts to give to others.  I do not expect others to be like me nor act or think like me.  Sometimes I think I am a little hyper in my mind.

Although I involve myself in many outlets, I enjoy what I do.  I enjoy serving others.  How about you?  What is your gift?  What is your purpose?  How can I help you?

This is my link if you want to discover your hidden possibilities in what God has called you.  Let’s discuss!

Continue to use your gifts and let your light shine!  Someone out there needs you!

In His Service

Melissa

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There Is No Condemnation

Romans 8

There is no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh but after the spirit.  For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and death.  …. For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit…. to the spiritually minded is life and peace.

This morning, I was thinking of a coaching session I had yesterday.  The barrier with my client wasn’t that she didn’t believe God wanted to do it for her or couldn’t do it for her, but that the enemy put up a wall to prevent her from reaching her goal she was trying to receive.  She reacted out of fear that God either didn’t want her to have her goal reached because she may have more responsibility after attaining the goal or too much freedom and act foolishly.

After digging deeper into the issue, I explained that our heavenly father WANTS her to have the freedom she is trying to attain.  He is not keeping it from her.  The issue was that the enemy had told her a lie.  A lie that was embedded out of condemnation and a works mentality.  We cast out the lie, her mind is renewed but the thinking will have to be re-directed for a time so her habits will change.  She no longer needs to be fearful of changing for the better.  God wants her better!

Condemnation gives you no hope.  Conviction from the Holy Spirit gives you hope.  She had no hope of reaching her goal because of the lie.

If you are struggling with something today, ask yourself the question “Am I hopeful or do I feel as though I cannot reach a state of peace about a subject.”  If it is the latter, then cast out the lie and re-direct your thinking.

Continue to walk in peace of His perfect love because it will cast down the fear.  Boost your faith by believing God not only wants you to have peace in every situation but He wants you blessed.  I want you to be blessed and find hope to live abundantly!

In His Presence be blessed!

Melissa

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Teaching About Prayer

When my husband asked me to speak on a Wednesday night, my first reaction was to tell him “no” and that was just because in this season of my life I felt as though I was too busy to study and prepare.  The Juice Bar keeps me hopping just to keep up with book work and ordering supplies.  I felt like a “plan B” instead of honored.  I am just being real and transparent.  I had several things going on that week and three days to study was cram time.

Although I am quite capable of retrieving in my head the knowledge of years of study, I am still Choleric and its hard for someone to ‘tell’ me what to do, not my convenience and yet still the topic of prayer.  Prayer… boring to me was not a good juicy topic even though it is a much needed subject because I have people who come to me and ask me how they should pray or directions on how to do it.  So I put on my creative hat and stayed up late to pull it all together.  Below is my sermon notes and the youtube clip.  Hope you enjoy! WATCH HERE 

 

PRAYER: DIRECT COMMUNICATION a spiritual communion with God, in fellowship, interchange or sharing of thoughts or emotions; the act of sharing, holding in common; participation.

 

TO FORM A RELATIONSHIP OF LOVE, CHARACTER, ACTIONS (partner with someone dependence, alliance,)

 

In a relationship: We want authentic – truth – loyalty & protection – love – security – acceptance as well as identity. Prayer forms all these things in our human behavior when we connect with God.

 

If you look at prayer as a duty or works, you will feel guilty because you are not doing it. We all have been told maybe “how to pray” “what to say” “when to pray” “where to pray” based on how others either got results, picked a prayer from the bible etc…

 

We must look at prayer as a spiritual oneness with God, our mind, body, spirit, or very soul melting into His heart to guide us, show us and love us as we are as we conform to His ways & will and not necessarily our own. A bond that will not separate. The glue that holds us together.

 

The Lord God Almighty can do all things; there is nothing impossible for Him (Luke 1:37).

The Lord God Almighty hears the prayers of His children. He commands us to pray, and He promises to listen when we do. “In my distress I called to the LORD; I cried to my God for help. From his temple he heard my voice; my cry came before him, into his ears” (Psalm 18:6).
He answers prayer. “I call on you, O God, for you will answer me” (Psalm 17:6).

“The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles” (Psalm 34:17).

 

I know as a parent you can tune your kids out sometimes…. But we still HEAR THEM!

 

JAMES 4:2 Yet you don’t have what you want because you don’t ask God for it.

 

Everything we do in life, there is always an asking., and relationship is always involved – time, awareness, thoughtfulness and sacrifice – communication and asking

Child to parent…. Relationship – ASKING IS A PART

Dating…. Relationship ASKING IS A PART

Friendship…. Relationship – ASKING IS A PART

Marriage…. Relationship – ASKING IS A PART

 

We go throughout life with Relationships/communication and asking

Ask

Matthew 7:7  “Ask, and it will be given to you, seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.

Matthew 21:22 And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.”

Mark 11:24  Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

John 14:13-14 Whatever you ask in my name, this I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask me anything in my name, I will do it

 

There’s an undeniable, unknowable, invisible mystery to the power of prayer.

We may dismiss it, downplay it, or even devalue its critical importance.

We may think it is a good idea in theory—if only it would actually make a difference.

Oftentimes people become disappointed and disillusioned when they pray to God to grant a specific outcome or desire and their “prayer” is not answered.

Many people think a miracle has happened when just such a prayer results in God’s bringing about the desired outcome.

Despite what we may or may not understand about prayer, God has deliberately chosen this particular vehicle to commune with his people. It is His way to partner in the fulfilling of his will. Prayer is the portal that brings the power of heaven down to earth.

THOUSANDS OF BOOKS ON PRAYER:

The Prayer of Jabez –

Daniels prayer

How to pray in one hour: Praise, Repetition, Reading of the Word, Meditation, Thanksgiving, and Praise

Prayer Wheel

MY Prayer Sheet

 

Name Salvation Healing Deliverance Special Prayer  
           
           
           
  1. Plead the blood of Jesus – blood on the door post
  2. People to receive, be drawn by His Spirit – no hindrances, no walls to prevent – open to hear
  3. Put people in place for divine intervention – put angels around them in protection
  4. Rebuke diseases, spirits, cast them out bind to them a spirit of love and healing
  5. Praise for results to manifest

 

Boys: Prayer bedtime – around the table (form a tradition)

Prayer lines at church –

According to the Internet 4,200 religions

Jewish Law: pray three times daily: in the morning, in the afternoon and at nightfall the people who remain standing on their feet after making three steps forward. This is made to get closer to God. The Jews have the special prayers for each situation in their lives. . Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. Abraham introduced prayer in the morning, Isaac—in the afternoon, and Jacob added one at night.

King David, for example, declared that he prayed three times daily,6 and Daniel (in Babylon) prayed three times daily facing in the direction of Jerusalem.

For Muslims, the five daily prayer times (called salat) They also serve as a reminder of the connection that Muslims the world over share through their faith and shared rituals. Islamic teaching requires Muslims to engage in ritualistic washing of the hands, feet, arms, and legs. Prayers are on a rug and facing the sun.

Buddhists don’t pray to a Creator God, but they do have devotional meditation practices which could be compared to praying. Radiating loving-kindness to all living beings is a practice where one dedicates the goodness of one’s life to the benefit of all living beings as well as praying for a particular person.

Church of Satan worldwide has set aside the 6 p.m. hour every day to pray for the demise of the Christian church, and most specifically for its pastors. Surprisingly, most card-carrying satanists do not worship Satan or any other form of the devil — they are actually atheists. The Church of Satan, founded in the mid-1960s: “Satan to us is a symbol of pride, liberty and individualism, and it serves as an external metaphorical projection of highest personal potential. They do not believe in Satan as a being or person.”

The Church of Satan puts the individual at the center of the universe “a-theist” to an “I-theist.”

Jehovah Witness 90% followed by Mormon 85% pray daily followed by us Christians at 79%

Pew Research Center:

55% of Americans say they pray. As well as believe you should attend church once a week and read the bible once weekly. But 85% believe in God as certain.

The same survey found that 63% of Christians in the U.S. say praying regularly is an essential part of their Christian identity.

Women (59%) are more likely than men (41%) to pray every day. Ages 30-49 pray daily more than any other age group.

Education: HS or less followed by some college vs. those who had college/graduate degree.

For those who make less than $30,000 a year prayed daily followed by the 50-90 thousand (those who made 30-50 thousand prayed less) followed by those who made over 100 grand

Married people prayed more followed by those who never married vs. partners rarely prayed as widows.

Pray in Faith

Another popular idea is that the amount of faith we have determines whether or not God will answer our prayers. However, sometimes the Lord answers our prayers in spite of our own lack of faith. In Acts 12, the church prays for Peter’s release from prison (v. 5), and God answers their prayer (vv. 7-11). Peter goes to the door of the prayer meeting and knocks, but those who are praying refuse at first to believe that it is really Peter. They prayed he would be released, but they failed to expect an answer to their prayers.

In faith:

Acts : Rise up and walk!

James 5:14-16 Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer of faith will save the one who is sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven. Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.

 

Always & With Thanksgiving

Ephesians 6:18 praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication. To that end keep alert with all perseverance, making supplication for all the saints,

Philippians 4:6-7 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

 

God calls us to be modern-day watchmen. The Bible speaks of “watches,” which are specific times of the day or night. There are basically eight watches covering 24 hours. Every prayer watch has a purpose.
Today more than ever, it is important that we pray and seek the mind of the Lord: “Thy Kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven” (Matthew 6:10). Major decisions we are confronted with require us to know God’s individual will for our lives.

FIRST WATCH: 6-9PM

  • Meditation and self-evaluation. Jewish tradition it is the end of the old day and the beginning of the new day.
  • A time of humbling yourself and allowing the Lord to search your heart.
  • A time of repentance and realigning your heart with His purpose.
  • A time to be strengthened, a time to quiet your soul and ask the Lord to remove any distractions from your heart.
  • After the business of the day is a time to release anxieties to the Lord before going to sleep.
  • This is a time to meditate on God’s Word. Meditation quiets our emotions, realigns our mind, and frees our will to do the will of God. What we could not hear clearly earlier in the day, we begin to hear during this time. During this watch, ask God to give you clear directions for the next day and about His call on your life.
  • Jesus used this time to Jesus also healed many sick people during this time (Mark 1:32; Luke 4:40). This watch is usually for those who have a strong apostolic calling and anointing to break strongholds and walls.
  • This watch is for seasoned Christians who are determined to do mighty things with boldness in the Lord.
  • Focus on your future; pray for your future and blessings.

SECOND WATCH: 9-MIDNIGHT

  • Release a canopy of praise and worship over your life. (Paul and Silias gave thanks – angels released on our behalf, a time of visitation and supernatural happenings of God.
  • It was at the midnight hour that God struck down the first-born of Egypt, which resulted in His people being released from captivity and set free to worship Him.  This watch is a time when God deals with the enemies that are trying to keep us from entering into His perfect plan for our lives.

THIRD WATCH : MIDNIGHT – 3AM

  • This time is known as the witching hour where witches try to control and take advantage.
  • This watch is a time for disciplined Christians to intercede and take back from the enemy the authority that he has attempted to steal.
  • This is the period to pray for God’s provision to be released (Luke 11:5-13; Acts 16:3).
  • It is also time for miracles and for applying the Blood of Jesus.
  • Often, we are awakened during this time with dreams God has given to us. God uses dreams and visions to bring instruction and counsel to us as we sleep. He also reveals areas where we need to concentrate our prayers and intercession. “In a dream, in a vision of the night, when deep sleep falls upon men, while slumbering on their beds, then He opens the ears of men, and seals their instructions.” (Job 33:15).
  • The devil can also attack you in dreams (nightmares), so always pray before you go to sleep and ask God to keep you from the enemy’s devices.

FOURTH WATCH: 3AM – 6AM

  • Jesus walked on water. This is the time of the morning when the Israelites were delivered from slavery in Egypt
  • When we can see divine intervention in our lives.
  • Declare the mercies of the Lord over you life and those in your sphere of influence.
  • This is the time the Lord will give you faith and courage to step out and follow Him in the face of adversity.
  • Declare the newness of God in your life, new mercies, new favor and new grace, wisdom, revelation. Speak to the storms in your life (death and life in power of tongue)
  • Declare promises of the Lord!
  • This is the time for all of the enemy’s plans and strategies to fail. This watch is for gaining territory, establishing the spirit of prosperity and stopping the devil from hijacking blessings and favor.
  • This prayer watch sets our day before it begins.
  • This is an opportunity to set things in place before the devil and his demons have a chance to ruin it. Accidents, deaths, thefts, job loss, and any other acts of the devil can be stopped during this watch when intercessors obey the voice of the Lord and fill the morning with powerful prayers.

FIFTH WATCH 6- 9 AM

  • The first watch of the day, consecrate yourself to the will of God for the day.
  • During this watch, pray for such issues as healing in your body, relationships, family, government, and the economy.
  • Time for the Holy Spirit to prepare us for service (2 Corinthians 9:30; Ephesians 4:12)
  • Acts 2:15 says it was the “third hour of the day” (or 9:00 A.M.) when the Holy Spirit descended in the Upper Room on the day of Pentecost to equip the 120 disciples for service.
  • Regular work schedules usually begin between the hours of 6:00 A.M. and 9:00 A.M. As you step out, ask the Holy Spirit to equip you for the day.

SIXTH WATCH 9-NOON

  • Holy Spirit poured out upon disciples –
  • #9 represents gifts and fruits of the Holy Spirit.
  • The Israelites used this as a time for corporate prayer. Daily prayer and instruction at the temple. We should use this for the power and character of the Holy Spirit to be released in the church – revival and spiritual awakening.
  • This is a time to watch for the Word of the Lord to be fulfilled in your life.
  • This is also the time to receive the supply of all resources needed for every project God has assigned you to fulfill (Exodus 12:35-36).
  • This was the time that the Israelites got everything that they had to use to build the Tabernacle in the wilderness.
  • Pray for the provision to accomplish whatever God wants you to do.
  • We must take up our cross and commit ourselves to Jesus Christ.

SEVENTH WATCH : NOON – 3PM

Jesus died on Cross.

Pray God would redeem the time, restore the years, pray for wisdom and revelation.

Rebuke spirits, decree the path of your destiny

The midday is the beginning of the sixth hour (12:00 P.M.)

This is the time when the sun is at its fullest and brightest. Pray that your life would be bright.

This is also the time to pray to not be led into any temptation, trap or snare of the enemy.

EIGHTH WATCH: 3-6PM

Jesus Christ died on the cross during this watch. (3:00 P.M.)

This is when Peter and John entered the temple and healed the lame man .

Pray for healing to be released upon those who have been captive to sickness and disease, miracles be released on the earth, miracles would glorify God.
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The power of prayer does not flow from us; it is not special words we say or the special way we say them or even how often we say them.

We cannot access powerful prayer by using “magic formulas.”

The power of prayer is not based on a certain direction we face or a certain position of our bodies. The power of prayer does not come from the use of artifacts or icons or candles or beads.

The power of prayer comes from the omnipotent One who hears our prayers and answers them.

 

Prayer places us in contact with Almighty God, and we should expect almighty results, whether or not He chooses to grant our petitions or deny our requests. Whatever the answer to our prayers, the God to whom we pray is the source of the power of prayer, and He can and will answer us, according to His perfect will and timing.

  1. Power Of Prayer – How do I tap into it?
    The power of prayer is not the result of the person praying. Rather, the power resides in the God who is being prayed to.1 John 5:14-15 tells us, “This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us – whatever we ask – we know that we have what we asked of him.”
  2. No matter the person praying, the passion behind the prayer, or the purpose of the prayer – God answers prayers that are in agreement with His will. His answers are not always yes, but are always in our best interest. When our desires line up with His will, we will come to understand that in time. When we pray passionately and purposefully, according to God’s will, God responds powerfully!

 

 

What Happens to your body when you pray?

2014 Injected with Dye – Brain Scan

“We see not only changes in the activity levels, but in different neurotransmitters, the chemicals in our brain.”

Because the brain basic body functions like heart rate, blood pressure, and the immune system, there’s evidence to show that by doing these practices, you can cause a lot of different changes all the way throughout the body, which could have a healing effect.” Dr Andrew Newburg

 

“The more you focus on something — whether that’s math or auto racing or football or God — the more that becomes your reality, the more it becomes written into the neural connections of your brain,” Newberg says.

 

Brain reacts in the frontal lobe as just as you were talking to a friend and that atheist had no brain activity.

Scientifically, we know this is true. It takes 21 days of focused thinking about one thought to form that neural pathway. It takes 63 days of thinking about that thought everyday to permanently wire that belief or thought in and to get it to become what naturally drives us without having to think.

 

As is the conclusion to everything, if we do what the Bible says, our brain and life will be shaped to have success, peace, happiness, and passion. That includes:

  • Memorizing scripture daily
  • reading the Bible daily
  • taking each thought captive and replacing it with truth
  • thinking on what is pure and eternal.
  • Be in constant prayer and conversations with the Holy Spirit to have him lead your day and every decision.

Do not be overwhelmed- this is a practice, a life long journey. The more you do it, the easier and completely natural it becomes!

 

WHAT HAPPENS TO OUR BODY

At such times, the body’s metabolism decreases, the heart rate slows, blood pressure goes down, and our breath becomes calmer and more regular.

 

This physiological state is correlated with slower brain waves, and feelings of control, tranquil alertness and peace of mind.

 

This is significant because Benson estimates that over half of all doctor visits in the U.S. today are prompted by illnesses, like depression, high blood pressure, ulcers and migraine headaches, that are caused at least in part by elevated levels of stress and anxiety.

Individuals who prayed daily were shown to be 40 percent less likely to have high blood pressure than those without a regular prayer practice.

 

 

 

 

I don’t believe that our prayer changes God’s mind or improves God’s disposition. God will do what God will do. Our basic prayer is: God, be God. Be the God you have shown yourself to be. 

 

Would God be something else if we didn’t pray? No.

Would God hate if we didn’t beg God to love? No.

Would God ignore a cancer or marriage unless we remembered to pray and did so fervently? No.

It is God’s nature to love, to show mercy, to forgive, and to redeem. Our prayers don’t modify God’s nature.

What, then, do our prayers do? At one level, they are like a child’s cry for a parent’s help. They just burst forth. We see a need, and we cry to God. We feel a pain, and we cry to God. Our prayers don’t always cause events to change, rather they recognize God’s presence in and through the events.

 

Our prayers align us with God.

It brings God close to us so we can listen.

He suggests—we ask—we thank—we listen.

 

We must look at prayer as a spiritual oneness with God, our mind, body, spirit, or very soul melting into His heart to guide us, show us and love us as we are as we conform to His ways & will and not necessarily our own. A bond that will not separate. The glue that holds us together in relationship and that he will never leave nor forsake us as we live this life on earth knowing one day we will see him..

 

 

 

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The Power of Positive Thinking

 Thinking positive attracts positive outcomes!

The POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING

 

Romans 12:1-2

Verse 1 says that we should present our bodies — that is, our whole active life — as a living sacrifice which is our spiritual service of worship. So the aim of all life is worship. That is, we are to use our bodies — our whole lives — to display the worth of God and all that he is for us in Christ. Now it makes perfect sense when verse 2 says that, in order for that to happen, our minds must be renewed. Why? Because our minds are not by nature God-worshiping minds. They are by nature self-worshiping minds. That is the spirit of our minds.

 

The term “the will of God” three biblical meanings.

First, there is the sovereign will of God, that always comes to pass without fail.

Second, there is the revealed will of God in the Bible — do not steal, do not lie, do not kill, do not covet —

And third, there is the path of wisdom and spontaneous godliness — wisdom, where we consciously apply the word of God with our renewed minds to complex moral circumstances, and spontaneous godliness where we live most of our lives without conscious reflection on the hundreds of things we say and do all day. Romans 12:2.

Mentally first then fruit on the outside. “Transform” So transformation is a profound, blood-bought, Spirit-wrought change from the inside out.

Regardless of temperment/environment/how we were raised etc….

When it comes down to it, positive, optimistic people are happier and healthier, and enjoy more success than those who think negatively. The key difference between positive and negative is how what we think about and interpret the events in life.

Research is beginning to reveal that positive thinking is about much more than just being happy or displaying an upbeat attitude. Positive thoughts can actually create real value in your life and help you build skills that last much longer than a smile.

First seek to understand before being understoodPositive and negative thoughts can become self-fulfilling prophecies: What we expect can often come true. Persistent negative thinking can cause mental health problems, including depression.

The first step in controlling your thoughts is awareness.

Identify your negative thoughts. Cognitive behavioral therapy practitioners believe that we have the ability to change our behavior by changing our thoughts. Thoughts are the catalyst that lead to behaviors.

CANT CHANGE OUR BEHAVIOR UNTIL CHANGE OUR THOUGHTS – CAN’T CHANGE OUR THOUGHTS WITHOUT RENEW MIND – TAKES THE SPIRIT OF GOD TO DO IT. 

The first step in changing negative thinking is to become aware of it. For many of us, negative thinking is a bad habit – and we may not even know we’re doing it!

SIGNS OF A NEGATIVE PERSON:

  1. Negative people rarely know what they stand for; they only know what they stand against. If the person you’re dealing with isn’t “for” anything positive, they likely have a negative worldview.
  2. Compliments are usually followed by the word “but”. A positive person (and even a neutral person for that matter) can give a compliment. Negative people can’t. What starts out positively (“I really enjoyed the event today”) is inevitably followed by a “but” (“but had they turned the volume down and shortened the message it would have been better.”)
  3. They aren’t accomplishing much with their life. Truly negative people rarely accomplish anything great. Because they are against so much, few people want to work with them. Stalled out careers, a history of frequent job changes, financial trouble and other similar markers often characterize negative people.
  4. They have no vision for the future. A negative person is almost never excited about the future. They have no compelling vision for what should be. They can just tell you why your vision is wrong. When you ask them for alternatives, they rarely have original or well-thought-out ideas.
  5. People who are negative have an issue with pride. They think they are better and smarter than you and by how they talk down at you makes them feel good and it puffs up their oversized ego. Their comments aren’t there to help you; they are there to make you feel inadequate and dumb. When they make you feel dumb, they feel superior and that is where all of this negativity fester from.

Quick TEST:

New Job: (do you think “what if I can’t do this or am I good enough?)

Exercise (do you think pain, change, time, discipline – or my body is going to look great and I can be healthy to live longer) Or, if you feel bad about not exercising or not eating healthy, all you think about is how little willpower you have, how you’re lazy, and how you don’t have any motivation.

Vacation (do you think $$ wasted, work to pack & plan or let’s go and relax and have good time)

Let go from job ( it must have been something I did, or wasn’t good enough or the company is going thru a slump)

Call/email from someone you don’t talk to often (what do they want or try to sell me something or I can’t wait to connect to them.

The waitress brings you a water instead of a tea, do you complain about it so much that everyone at the table knows about it, and get them to bring you another one or do you just drink your water and think it’s no big deal?

Do you think about her day?  Do you try to understand the other person first without getting upset cause you didn’t get what you ordered?

DO YOU HAVE NEGATIVE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE BRINGING YOU DOWN?

When you see anyone’s name come up on your caller ID, you get an immediate emotional reaction to it. Sometimes you’re thrilled to see the name and can’t wait to take the call. Other times you’re neutral. But sometimes you wince. Whether it’s a phone call, a text or an email, you respond negatively and quietly think “oh no.” That’s a sign that the person’s overall influence in your life has been negative, not positive.

How do you have a positive mindsetWe all have negative moments in our life…. 

Even DAVID was negative especially when he had his “pity party” moments, yet he still knew who to call upon for help.  As Christians we may have our faults and our times of negativity due to the circumstances, however we must keep the faith of knowing where our help comes from. 

Psalm 13 O LORD, how long will you forget me? Forever?

How long will you look the other way?

2How long must I struggle with anguish in my soul,

with sorrow in my heart every day?

How long will my enemy have the upper hand?

3Turn and answer me, O LORD my God!

Restore the sparkle to my eyes, or I will die.

 

Definition: Negative thinking is the tendency to take the most unfavorable view of situations, or to expect the worst outcome in any circumstances; the practice of looking on the gloomy and dark side of things.

Positiveness is optimism; the tendency or habit of seeing and expecting the good in things; looking on the bright side; anticipating favorable results; hopefulness.

Bible says a lot about negative thinking….

  1. Giving place to negative thinking only bears bad fruit.

Proverbs 23:7 [If you give place to negative thoughts, you will become a negative person.] For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.

Proverbs 15:13 [Sad and negative thoughts weaken our spirits and lead to discouragement.] By sorrow of the heart, the spirit is broken.

Luke 6:45 [Those whose hearts and minds are filled with negative thoughts usually spread them by voicing them.] A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good: and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.

Romans 8:6,7 [Negative thinking is not walking in “newness of life,” but in the old carnal nature which is against God.] For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. 7 Because the carnal mind is enmity [hostile] against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be. [See also Eph.4:17.]

1 Corinthians 13:5 [If we’re walking in love, we don’t think negatively towards others.] [Love] doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil.

Hebrews 12:15 [Harboring negative, critical thoughts can lead to bitterness.] Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God, lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled.

WE CAN CONTROL OUR THOUGHTS

Eph 4:21 Since you have heard about Jesus and have learned the truth that comes from him,throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes.

Take every one of your thoughts (beliefs, imaginations, dreams, and ideas) captive to the obedience of Christ. (II Corinthians 10:5)

Since all of your emotions, words and actions originate in your mind and heart, you can wake up every morning with the assurance that you have the power to control how you feel, what you say and how you act all day long.

No one is a victim. Guard your heart; you are what you think. (Proverbs 23:7) Also, whatever thoughts you sow into your mind, you will reap the consequences. (Galatians 6:7) You become what you think!

Spend a few seconds reflecting on what you are today and what you have. Everything about you is the result of what you have been thinking your whole life.

Day dreaming is thinking, planning is thinking, imagining is thinking, reacting to circumstances is thinking and wishing things could have been different for you is thinking. Your beliefs are your thoughts grouped together over many years.

One of the greatest truths in life: It’s not what happens to you (your past, present or future circumstances) or what people do or say to you that cause your emotions.

 Your emotions come from what you think about after things happen to you! You control all of your emotions by what you think. Emotions are simply data telling you what you have been thinking.

YOUR THOUGHTS PRODUCE ACTIONS – PRODUCE HABITS – PRODUCE YOUR DESTINY

WHERE ARE YOU GOING RIGHT NOW?

Also, listen to your words and watch your actions and let them tell you what your heart looks like.

We can over ride any past thoughts and transform my life by the renewing of my mind

Let your mind dwell on only these eight powerful, life-changing words: true, honorable, right, pure, beautiful, adorable, excellent and praise worthy. (Philippians 4:8, 9)

No one controls how you think and thus, no one has the power to control how you feel, speak or act any longer.

You are never the victim of others or circumstances.

What Negative Thoughts Do to Your Brain

Let’s say that you’re walking through the forest and suddenly a tiger steps onto the path ahead of you. When this happens, your brain registers a negative emotion — in this case, fear.

Researchers have long known that negative emotions program your brain to do a specific action. When that tiger crosses your path, for example, you run. The rest of the world doesn’t matter. You are focused entirely on the tiger, the fear it creates, and how you can get away from it.

In other words, negative emotions narrow your mind and focus your thoughts. At that same moment, you might have the option to climb a tree, pick up a leaf, or grab a stick — but your brain ignores all of those options because they seem irrelevant when a tiger is standing in front of you.

This is a useful instinct if you’re trying to save life and limb, but in our modern society we don’t have to worry about stumbling across tigers in the wilderness. The problem is that your brain is still programmed to respond to negative emotions in the same wayby shutting off the outside world and limiting the options you see around you.

For example, when you’re in a fight with someone, your anger and emotion might consume you to the point where you can’t think about anything else. Or, when you are stressed out about everything you have to get done today, you may find it hard to actual start anything because you’re paralyzed by how long your to–do list has become.

In each case, your brain closes off from the outside world and focuses on the negative emotions of fear, anger, and stress — just like it did with the tiger. Negative emotions prevent your brain from seeing the other options and choices that surround you. It’s your survival instinct.

 

What Positive Thoughts Do to Your Brain

Fredrickson tested the impact of positive emotions on the brain by setting up a little experiment. During this experiment, she divided her research subjects into 5 groups and showed each group different film clips.

The first two groups were shown clips that created positive emotions. Group 1 saw images that created feelings of joy. Group 2 saw images that created feelings of contentment.

Group 3 was the control group. They saw images that were neutral and produced no significant emotion.

The last two groups were shown clips that created negative emotions. Group 4 saw images that created feelings of fear. Group 5 saw images that created feelings of anger.

Afterward, each participant was asked to imagine themselves in a situation where similar feelings would arise and to write down what they would do. Each participant was handed a piece of paper with 20 blank lines that started with the phrase, “I would like to…”

Participants who saw images of fear and anger wrote down the fewest responses. Meanwhile, the participants who saw images of joy and contentment, wrote down a significantly higher number of actions that they would take, even when compared to the neutral group.

In other words, when you are experiencing positive emotions like joy, contentment, and love, you will see more possibilities in your life. These findings were among the first that proved that positive emotions broaden your sense of possibility and open your mind up to more options.

TALK ABOUT LEAVING A LEGACY! You create the environment. That is power in your thoughts!

Tips on how to stay positiveGREAT TIPS TO BECOME MORE POSITIVE PERSON

  1. Keep a gratitude journal. Remind yourself of your blessings.
  2. Focusing on the positive. Push out all feelings that aren’t positive. When you hear the voice in your head say something negative, take a pause and substitute the negative for something positive.ONLY focus on the good things in your life. Realize that your thoughts do not own you. Stop letting negative thoughts control you.
  3. Only use positive words when talking. Stop CURSING your self!
  4. Practice positive affirmation. One of the most popular positive thinking exercises is positive affirmation. This means you repeat a positive phrase to yourself on a regular basis like “I deserve to be happy” or “I am worthy of love”. Believing that these things are true, and reminding yourself of it can help give you a more positive outlook on life.
  5. Believe you will succeed. Believe in yourself.
  6. Forgive yourself. Stop being your own worst critic. Don’t dwell on mistakes.
  7. Let go of the past. It does not determine your future so why focus on it? If you feel yourself ruminating on the past make a conscious effort to take your thoughts in another direction.
  8. Remember things could be worse. Understand that the situation is not forever.
  9. LOOK at your circumstances as an opportunity. Look at the big picture. Visualize a successful outcome.
  10. Relax and let things happen. See it from another point of view.
  11. Avoid negative people.
  12. Do something nice.
  13. Avoid laying blame. So the water bill didn’t get paid. You could get mad and start a fight with your spouse or roommate. Or, you could let it go, take it in stride and work together to remedy the situation.
  14. Be playful. Engage in physical activity – DO SOMETHING NEW.
  15. Listen to something upbeat. Music can be a great mood enhancer.
  16. Monitor your stream of consciousness. Focus on great memories – PHOTOS
  17. Concentrate on breathing. When things just seem to be too much to deal with, try concentrating on simply breathing.
  18. Find something to laugh about.
  19. Face up to change.
  20. Focus on finding a solution. Don’t wallow in your problems. Instead, work towards finding a solution and getting them resolved. You’ll be able to feel proactive and feel in control of your life.
  21. Believe the world is a good place.
  22. Stop making excuses. Take control of your decisions.
  23. Don’t play the victim. Bad things happen to everyone from time to time. Pitying yourself and wanting others to feel sorry for you isn’t going to make things better. Pick yourself up and start working towards a happier future.
  24. Don’t place your future in someone else’s hands. Your future is yours alone to shape. Remember this and take control of where you’re going in life.
  25. Create realistic goals.
  26. Choose joy. Every day when you wake up you make the choice whether to be happy or miserable.
  27. Believe you deserve good things and know who you are in Christ. If you don’t truly believe that you deserve good things in your life you likely aren’t going to encounter many. Believe that you are worthy for good fortune to come your way and it just might.
  28. Sometimes all it takes to feel good is to put a smile on your face. Practice putting on a happy face even when you just feel so-so.

Positive thinking usually attracts positive people, events, and outcomes. If you want to create an environment where you’re successful and satisfied, you’ll need the power of positive thinking on your side and that comes with renewing your mind with God’s Word and having Jesus centered in your life.

Our life becomes a spiritual act of worship and displays the worth of Christ above the worth of the world, when we allow him to renew our mind. Are you ready to put that into action?  Leave a comment below and let me know your great tips!

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Shannon’s Story of Forgiveness

How many times does our Father or Mother’s sin effect our life as we grow up as children?  Sometimes we carry around the sin, the guilt, the blame and yes the feelings of rejection and un-forgiveness in life or even deal with the battles our parents never conquered.  This story was made purposely not to expose one family’s faults but in some way we may all have experienced this or know someone who has.  The ultimate goal of the enemy is always to kill, steal and destroy, however as Shannon met her sister for the first time upon her father’s death bed, Shannon found something she had been looking for her entire life….freedom and forgiveness.

Watch as Shannon tells her story of forgiveness…..

Matthew 18 Living Translation

21Then Peter came to him and asked, “Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?”

22“No, not seven times,” Jesus replied, “but seventy times seven!

 

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What’s Love Got To Do With It

Valentine's Day Flowers is a great way to show you love someone

Last night I got the opportunity to speak at our church about the facets of Love.  Since Valentines day is tomorrow and everyone seems giddy about the event planning on flowers, chocolates and cards, I decided to teach about Love.  Here are my sermon notes and in a few days, I will upload the sermon link so you may also hear the message.

I John 4:16 –

And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we live like Jesus here in this world. Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.  We love each other because he loved us first. If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a Christian brother or sister, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see? And he has given us this command: Those who love God must also love their Christian brothers and sisters.

This type of love that comes from God :

Daily Live in Love

There is love that is perfect love

Pursue it

Is forever love

Is Greatest love

Brings unity

Brings peace

Shows kindness

We have to receive it and put it on – abide in it

Sacrifices for sake of others

Love is a choice….

Greeks had terms of love:

  • Storge – affection that parents have with their children, (putting up with family members) Storge Lovers: life long friends
  • Philia – mental love of give and take – loyalty to others – general shoulder to shoulder friendship, Philia Lover: Philos love is a mutual, “give-and take” relationship,
  • Eros – Physical love – passionate love with sensual desire – love at first site – looks. It is based more on “self-benefit”.  Pure emotion without the balance of logic:

Erotic lover wants to know everything about the beloved from the first moment of their RELATIONSHIP, all of his or her experiences, joys and sorrows, who else he or she has loved in the past, how much and in what ways.  like to wear matching T-shirts, identical bracelets, matching colors, order the same foods when dining out, find out that their blood types are the same; they typically want to be identified with each other as totally as possible. Breakups are explosive and painful. Eros love can only succeed in the long-term if it progresses into a higher form of love. Otherwise, it will not last.

  • Agape – spiritual love – true unconditional love, expecting nothing in return –  no self benefit: Agape Lover: forgiving – “not a fall in love desire” but this love is always available for the opportunity to show that love.  They are patient, have the ability to wait indefinitely for the behavior of their love to change.

Other types of LOVERS:

  • MANIA (Possessiveness and Intense Dependency) (Eros and Game player )Mania is an obsessive love that, intimate  and intense, often includes jealousy, possessiveness and a lack of communication. Maniacal love can lead to domestic violence.   The constructed ideal of this type of lover is obsessed to where they are unable to sleep, eat, or even think logically around the loved one. The manic lover has peaks of excitement, but also depths of depression, with very few periods without a high or low, jealous – irrational.

A manic lover cannot tolerate loss of contact , even for short periods of time, and is distressed by a lack of the lover’s presence .

* crushed by real or fancied rejection, possibly to the point of suicidal ideation.

* manipulate the behaviors or feelings of the loved one,

* do not tolerate separation at all well.

The manic lover has a tendency to review past relationships and speculate about what when wrong – high level or anxiety,  have problems related to anxiety and associated with low self-esteem and a poor self concept.

  • Pragma (logical – sensible) a person who is unable to invest love in “unworthy” love objects. (You DESERVE ME) The pragmatic lover is keenly aware of the comparison level for alternatives that he or she has. Pragmatic lovers are inclined to look for a “deal – good bargin” A pragmatic lover typically assists the loved one to fulfill his or her potentials; for example, such a lover might make sure the love object finishes school, asks for deserved promotions, gets the attention or that he or she “deserves” from physicians, stockbrokers, or employers. And everything is planned – family
  • Ludus (game player) A ludic lover hates dependency, either in himself/herself or in others. This type shies away from commitment of any sort (does not like lovers to take him or her for granted). The ludic lover enjoys strategies, and may keep two or three or even four lovers “on the string” at one time. A ludic lover may even create a fictional lover to discourage a real one’s hopes for a permanent relationship. He or she avoids long-range plans. Self-centered and won’t listen

The Types of Love are explained.  The Agape is the highest form of love however culture continues to seek self gratification instead of selflessness.

1973 book The Colors of Love, John Lee compared styles of love to the color wheel.

Three primary styles:


1. Eros – Loving an ideal person

2. Ludos – Love as a game

3. Storge – Love as friendship

Three secondary styles:


1. Mania (Eros + Ludos) – Obsessive love

2. Pragma (Ludos + Storge) – Realistic and practical love

3. Agape (Eros + Storge) – Selfless love

The human brain supports falling in love, which is why we have such a strong physiological response when we are attracted to another.

Most people want love but believe self gratification is in there too.

  • make me ‘feel good’
  • Love  MUST nourish it. : feed it, to take care of it, to value it.

 True love is not about what you feel, it is about what you do.

*Euphoria Stage.  Emotion and feeling based but can be a long term with different value if love grows.

The more time you spend with a person the more you learn about their character and personality. The real test of love is being able to love someone when you know their flaws and short comings.

The ultimate goal is to love in Reality with some euphoric feelings and avoid the stage of ‘Offense’.

*Offense stage comes swiftly after the Reality stage because the relationship was built based on the feelings felt in Euphoria as opposed to a solid friendship.

The Offense stage is different from having hard times in a relationship.

The Offense stage: constant conflict and tension because of false expectations.

*Reality stage it’s not about how you feel, it’s about a choice.  The real test of love is being able to love someone when you know their flaws and short comings.

The ultimate goal is to love in Reality with some euphoric feelings and avoid the stage of ‘Offense’.

Humans have evolved three different brain systems to encourage mating: sex drive (lust), feelings of attachment (trust), and romance (being in love). Each of these systems plays a role in desire.

Lust. Sex drive is associated with a class of hormones called testosterone (even women have it) Playing competitive sports have been shown to trigger testosterone production; in fact, women get a bigger boost than men during a competition. Making love can also create the same effect. Studies have shown that sex raises testosterone levels, so the more sex you have, the more sex you desire.

touching someone brings more feelings of love because it releases a chemical in your brain to promote love

Trust. Feelings of trust and attachment are fostered by the chemical oxytocin. You can stimulate oxytocin naturally with touch. Hold hands while you watch TV, trade massages, or sleep in each other’s arms. Oxytocin, the love/hate hormone
.  Human and animal studies have shown that oxytocin plays a role in bonding;

While affecting positive behaviors of trust and bonding, it can also affect opposite behaviors like jealousy, envy, and suspicion. when the association is negative, the hormone increases negative sentiments”.

Love. The third chemical that drives relationships is dopamine, a key player in the brain’s reward regions that’s been found to promote romantic love. Research shows that —taking risks or trying something new—can trigger the release of dopamine in the brain.

 SONGS: MRI and PET scans reveal that when you listen to music that excites you, your brain releases dopamine during the most exciting moments of the song and even in anticipation of those moments.

Some things a person does can produce so much dopamine that over time, the dopamine response lessens, which means you can lose the ability to feel any kind of pleasure at all. The usual culprits of this dopamine dulling effect are things like cocaine and heroin, which is good news for the great majority of us who are not addicted to illicit substances. The bad news is that if you’re addicted to fatty foods, the same thing could potentially happen to you. If you let rats eat as much cheesecake, bacon, sausage, and other fatty foods as they want, not only will they become obese, but their dopamine responses will start to attenuate over time. So while a small slice of cheesecake once in a while may get your dopamine flowing, overdoing it may have negative consequences on your brain.

Feeling of intense romantic love lasts only about 18 months to—at best—three years.

Brains of these middle-aged men and women showed much the same activity as those of young lovers, individuals who had been intensely in love an average of only seven months. Indeed, there was just one important difference between the two groups: Among the older lovers, brain regions associated with anxiety were no longer active; instead, there was activity in the areas associated with calmness.

Sacrificing Love:  It is the foundation to every key relationship in life.

Revolutionizes marriage

Fortifies friendships

Business : we treat our colleagues, employees and customers

Communities : reach out to people and make their lives better

Love is sacrifice and has a lot more to do with being a servant than with being a hero. 

When you are concerned about the well being of others, you sacrifice.

  • Time
  • Energy
  • Money
  • Give up plans
  • Give up independence
  • Give up privacy
  • May have to part with whatever is most precious to you for the sake of someone else.

Hard because our Culture teaches exact opposite – Logic thinking doesn’t make sense or logic, it’s not fair.

True personal fulfillment never comes through self-gratification but opposite.

The right type of love never fails…. all other types of love will have you wanting but never satisfying.

 

Mark 8:34-35

Deny yourself

“Put aside your own pleasures and shoulder your cross and follow me closely.  If you insist on saving your life you will lose it.  Only those who throw away their lives for my sake and for the sake of the Good News will ever know what it means to really live.”

Matthew 20:26  … whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant,” (throughout the gospels: the one who rules is the one who serves)

Luke 22 :28  The one who stands beside me in trials.  (Through everything you love)

It is only when we give ourselves to God and joyfully serve his people in sacrificial love that we find fulfillment and satisfaction that the world will never know.

In marriage = a lot of sacrifice

  • A good marriage enhances the life of each spouse, making it fuller and more satisfying than it would be if the marriage did not exist.
  • Loving marriage help both spouses grow into their full potential rather than squelching either persons dreams
  • Loving spouses put the other persons needs above their own

The highest form of love…..do you agree?

In friendship = willing to make investment in someone’s life

Why is it so hard?  Commitment

Try it – keep giving and giving – good actions not a feeling…. Some do good but then what happens when people come to the point they are running on empty? They get angry at people: how do you know, people become problems. (hermit)

God tells us not only to live sacrificially but also steadfastly. (persistent, loyal, consistently)

“I am done!”  I am burnout….

How do we get refilled?

Spending time alone with God – He is source of love.  Jesus did this many times, leaving the crowd and go pray.

(can’t depend us getting love from another person) Hosea 12:6 But you must return to your God; maintain love and justice, and wait for your God always.

Want peace? 2 Corth 13:11 :  Finally, brothers and sisters, rejoice! Strive for full restoration, encourage one another, be of one mind, live in peace. And the God of love and peace will be with you.

Satan. If he cannot destroy, he will try to disgrace or distress us If believers were left to themselves, they would fall; but they are kept by the power of God

Burn out 3 ways.

  1. Spiritually :  Love tank is low – daily time with God before the day starts. Listen to Christian music
  2. Emotionally: Feel uninterested in others – Life itself happens (bad days) . replenish yourself through relaxing or recreation
  3. Physically:  Won’t listen, no serving, no confront or encourage people, no energy, easily irritated, critical, short fused, defensive and negative.  It is hard to love others and equally hard for others to love them.

Act as Jesus would act and do in all 3 areas.….

I John 4:12 No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us.

I Corth. 13:1 : If I had knowledge, if I gave to the poor, moved mountains, but If didn’t love others, I would be nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind.

Love does not always want nor boastful, is not conceited, or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

slow to anger when abused, not quick of resentment, nor hasty to revenge when affronted; but exercises forbearance, suffers long, and bears much, and is ready to forgive:
Agape love is the highest form of love.  Do you think you could reach it?

Love suffers long.


Love is kind.


Love does not envy.


Love does not parade itself.


Love is not puffed up.


Love does not behave rudely.


Love does not seek its own.


Love is not provoked.


Love thinks no evil.


Love does not rejoice in iniquity.


Love rejoices in the truth.


Love bears all things.


Love believes all things.


Love hopes all things.


Love endures all things.


Love never fails.

So what does Love Got to do with it… Everything… because without love you are nothing…

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God Showers Us With White Snow

Backyard snow showered by God's loveJehovah is KING!

Let all the earth rejoice!  (The song keeps playing over and over in my head as I look across my back yard in the beauty of the white snow covering everything.  There is flurries swirling about as if God is sprinkling everything with powdered sugar – sweetness!) 

Back to center, back to roots, devotion first thing so I won’t get distracted with my social media, my writing and my business.  I love giving God time, the house is quiet and everyone is still asleep.  In fact all you can hear is the typing of my fingers and an occasional howl of the wind.  The smell of coffee, the warmth of the cup and the taste of God being with me warms my soul.

My reading comes from Psalms 97 today.  I read out of the Living Bible.  Its my favorite with it being paraphrased it’s like stepping into a story book and coming alive.  🙂

Righteousness and justice are the foundation of his throne….his lightning flashes out across the world, the earth sees and trembles.  The mountains melt like wax before the Lord of all the earth, the heavens declare his perfect righteousness every nation sees his glory.

The Lord loves those who hate evil; he protects the lives of his people and rescues them from the wicked.  Light is sown for the godly and joy for the good.  May all who are godly be happy in the Lord and crown him our holy God……

 God is good all the time – righteous is from Him.  When we allow Him to come into our lives, our thoughts are righteous and our actions our righteous.  All of creation knows this.  God is not mad or evil.  There is no evil in God.  I sometimes hear people say, God did this to me to teach me a lesson or He put this burden on me.  This is not true.  God allows things to happen to us to bring out the glory of Him and the good in us.  It is us to choose righteous behavior or actions during the trial.   

Let us be thankful for the good and the bad because no matter what God is King and He is righteous.  We declare that by allowing Him to be in us, protect us and rescue us through life.  Will you let Him?