I always wondered why people delete their Facebook friends. It is kinda sad but holds true to most people who delete. Sometimes it is just to clean out your Facebook and start something new and sometimes it is just wanting to block the person from showing up in your news feed. It used to bother me when someone deleted me, because that can really mess up your thoughts on who you thought were true friends, but now I don’t get too much drama in my head when someone unfriended me. I know there is something more going on in that person’s head to feel as though they should delete. For some it gives the person a type of control and makes them feel powerful with a press of the button to end a friendship. Sometimes it is a hurt that is hard to deal with and instead of valuing the relationship with courageous conversation it is thought better to run from it. It is a type of protective mode and I understand that.
I wonder how David in the Bible would have felt if he had a Facebook or used some type of social media? Let us look at Psalms 57.
David starts out crying out to God and runs to Him for hiding as the storms of life surround him. This is a good thing, yet notice David runs to God and not away from Him despite the circumstances of life or the chaos that is going on. David realizes the power of God, the grace of God and His saving power with confessing his faith. He also knows that God will rescue him from the liars who are so intent upon destroying him, using the words “I am surrounded by fierce lions, hotheads whose teeth are sharp as spears and arrows. Their tongues are like swords….” David knew his enemies were setting traps for him and he was fearful of the future but knew he must stay faithful to God. He then watched his enemies fall into the traps themselves. He goes on to continue to praise God and sing Him praises for His loving kindness. Davids wishes thru all of this time in his life , God’s glory be brought throughout all the earth. David was hurt and he was scared of what people would think or view of him. A natural response when you know people spread gossip and lies about you.
God is still faithful to those who run toward Him and His grace and mercy endures forever to either party. The next time you get the urge to delete, if you value the relationship take time to ask yourself “why” you are deleting. Is it because of unmet expectations, or hurt feelings or just a clean up. Either or say a prayer over the person instead of hating. Practice love instead of judgement. Even in the midst of storms in your life, you can produce fruit for others to follow as God takes care of your enemies.
Facebook is network. It links you to a person in years down the road could open an opportunity up for you. I heard a man say once, “Don’t burn bridges or one day you may have no place to go”.