Many times we fall short telling our husband what we really want just expecting him to “just know”. However we must remember they can’t read our mind even if we give little hints. Here is an article I came across in counseling for men in help winning their wife back or into a deeper relationship where sparks fly.
There must be change. Personal growth in four areas: I will discuss the first one today. Mental
There must be balance in the mindset first for everything else to fall into place. What exercise is to the body, reading is to the mind. It is reading, not watching TV that sharpens the mind unless it is valuable information to learning a new project or helping life get better. I heard a man say once, “You become in a few years, what you have read”. If you don’t read, then life continues to dwindle and so does the mind. When it comes to the Word of God, women want their husband to be ‘smarter’ than they are to feel secure. It comes by changing and working first on the mind. Here is a list for a quick check up.
Are you mentally fit or intellectually stagnant?
Are you always learning, renewing your mind, and taking in new information?
Are you up to date with what is happening in the world?
Have you made yourself interesting by being interested in what is going on around you?
What is the last book you read?
Do you feel comfortable being able to discuss a wide range of topics?
Many women are not waiting for their man to attain a sanctified, glorified state of perfection but a man of integrity, honest, balanced and healthy. This starts with putting good things into the mind, then the actions will follow.
Renew the mind! Romans 12:2
New International Version (©1984)
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.