I recently came across this story and thought it worth sharing.
There was this couple that moved into a new neighborhood. Early one morning while they were eating, the lady looked out the window and saw the neighbor hanging her wash out on the line to dry. She noticed that the wash was so dirty and so dingy. She said to her husband, “That neighbor doesn´t know how to wash. Her clothes aren´t clean. I wonder if she even uses detergent.” Day after day, she made these same comments. “I can´t believe she lets her family wear those dirty, dingy clothes.” Several weeks later, she looked out that window, and the clothes were just as bright and clean and beautiful as could be. She was so surprised. She called her husband and said, “Honey, look. The lady finally learned how to wash. I wonder what happened.” The husband smiled and said, “Honey, I got up early this morning and cleaned our window.”
The problem was not that the neighbor had dirty laundry. The problem was the window she was looking through was not clean. She was seeing everything through a tainted filter. It´s the same way beauty; or you only see the scratch in the floor and never the amazing house; if you never see what others do right and only what you think is wrong about them, then the window may be tainted. The problem is not with others, it´s an internal issue with self.
If you struggle in this area, I would encourage you to make a list of the qualities that you like about the person whom you constantly judge or criticize, condemn or make acuasations of knowing it is wrong for you to think in this type of patterned behavior. Instead, try to write down the things that others do right. Start focusing on good qualities instead of trying to pick out areas you may want to judge. We serve a mighty God who chooses to love, have mercy and we should leave the judging up to Him if we are choosing to be Christians who love our brothers and sisters. God alone is big enough to take care of His business in that which we may try to say is ours. We can choose to have peace and unity if we choose to look out of a clean window or we can choose to be heart broken and live upset with a victims mentality or controlling attitude. I choose to keep my windows clean, for it will be each one of us alone who will stand before God and be accountable for our actions.
Prayer: Lord, I praise you for your love and mercy and for always checking our attitude on things that come our way. Let us not judge others in our own thinking but allow us to see only the good in others. Help us be productive for your Kingdom, live a holy and righteous life and have peace and unity with others. In Jesus Name. Amen.