We all have had them. Can you say “Pity parties”. When we go through a trial or through a dark season in our life we tend to allow condemnation set in. Not only on ourselves in our mind but also toward other people. We tend to forget where God has brought us from and the grace and mercy he has shown us and continue to live in dung. We hurt, we don’t feel good, we lash out at people, we retrieve to a cave and we don’t want to be around people. We are late getting to church and we tend to be the first to leave directly after the service, plus fellowship with others is totally out of the question. It is like we want to be noticed for going through a rough time, even sometimes calling the prayer line numerous times to let people know how bad we are feeling or how we need a financial miracle. It is a cycle with condemnation and its much like being co-dependant.
A lot of believers hear condemning thoughts, and some believers even think it’s God telling them these things to bring light to their dark tunnel. However, nothing could be further from the truth! God NEVER tells you what a loser you are. Jesus said He came not to condemn the world, but to save it (John 12:47). God has made every provision for us and He has paid the price for everything we go through. He didn’t say it would be really easy but he did say He had overcome the world. He puts the ball into our hands to believe what is true and what is not. What is not is to continue to live in condemnation.
What does it mean to have a condemning attitude? It is when we make statements like this, “Where are my friends when I needed them, Pastor never came to see me, church is a bunch of hypocrites”. We all face darkness in different seasons of life and when we do, our natural impulse is to take matter in our own hands. We don’t like pain or waiting and it is easy to invite everyone to the pity party or the condemnation gala event. However if we remain strong and continue to do right even when it means to be quiet and sit still, trust in God, then the outcome will be more rewarding. Do what is right even when you are standing in the dark. Your decisions will affect more than you during that particular time.
Condemnation also can plague our mind becoming a stronghold. It prevents us from moving forward into the destiny God has for us by keeping us focused on our present or past with ourselves or with others. It comes from Satan and is meant to tear you down. Condemnation continually points out what a failure you are, and how badly you’ve messed up. Condemnation is showing you the problem, but avoiding the solution. In my early Christian years, I suffered from this and quoted the Scripture many times in Romans 8:1,New Living Translation (©2007)So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. Just saying the Scripture helped but I truly had to believe it and believe God was bigger than my sin.
So, if you are having little thoughts in your head on how worthless you are, you can’t do anything right and neither can anyone else, realize it is not from your Heavenly Father but from the father of all lies who wants to prevent you from fulfilling God’s promises and blessings in your life. If the enemy doesn’t attack you with feeling of failure then he will attack in a way for you to have a self-righteous attitude and condemn others for their actions. Either way it is condemnation from the enemy using to provoke growth in his world and stunt your growth in the Kingdom of God. Take control and stand upon God’s promises even when you go through the dark times.
Prayer: Lord, help me to recognize when the party invitations are mailed out to my Pity Party. I pray that I allow you to consume me with your spirit in times I feel frustrated or hurt. I thank you and know you give mercy which last forever to cover my short comings or my lack of spiritual insight. In Jesus Name. Amen