Have you ever looked at pictures of yourself from the past and say, “Lord, what was I thinking?” I looked back at my pictures in the eighties and the big bangs, the perm fried hair and thought how crazy was that. As I have gotten older my hair keeps getting shorter and shorter. I remember doing a study about hair and women several years ago. I can understand the concept of why our hair can make or break us down on a daily basis. The perception of a bad hair actually produces negative consequences beyond not feeling good about how one looks. According to studies bad hair days affect self-esteem, increasing self-doubt intensifying social insecurities, and becoming self-critical in general. If I looked in the morning at my hair and it determined how I thought about myself, then I wouldn’t leave the house. I giggle at the thought about going to Wal-Mart and seeing those women who could care less about their hair and then they are not one who really cares about their self-esteem because they are usually wearing pajamas, house shoes and short disciplined. They have gone past caring about bad hair days or what they look like. Here is what I found about the studies of hair. Do we bow down to this perception in seeing it as fact and what is the solution to this crazy hair?
Did you know Bad Hair Lowers Self-Esteem Regarding Performance A person with positive performance self-esteem is an individual who is confident and optimistic that he or she is on top of things, understands what needs to be done and feels capable about being able to pull it off. According to the study, the perception of bad hair leads to a reduced sense of performance self-esteem, such that men and women doubt their capabilities and may ultimately perform below their level of competence when experiencing a bad hair day. Most notably, just the thought of a bad hair day caused both men and women to feel they are not as smart as others. Surprisingly, the impact on performance self-esteem was more pronounced among men.
Bad Hair Increases Social Insecurity The study further found that bad hair intensifies feelings of social insecurity and self-consciousness. However, the psychological reactions differed among women and men. Women tend to feel more disgraced, embarrassed, ashamed or self-conscious when experiencing bad hair. Men on the other hand, feel more nervous, less confident and are more inclined to be unsociable.
Bad Hair Intensifies Self-Criticism Evidence shows that bad hair causes one to be more negative about oneself. Specifically, results indicate that a ‘bad hair’ day leads individuals to find more personal character flaws that go beyond their appearance. When asked to complete a list of statement about who they are, “bad hair” caused people to mention significantly more negative traits and attributes.
Since we know that bad hair days affect mood, maybe I should teach how colors affect moods and how the food you eat affects moods and how wearing make-up can affect moods. We are a moody people! So, how can we be proactive in stopping this madness?
The key that most miss is that moods are not caused by the events, bad hair days, colors or food—they are caused by your responses to the those things—by what you think about them. Here goes the mindset again! Moods are emotions expressed. We must realize that emotions are actually reflections of your thoughts, not the other way around. If you are angry, it is because you think that some injustice has occurred. If you are happy, it is because you are thinking about enjoyable things. It follows then, if you are “in a bad mood,” it is because you have been thinking about things that upset you. If you are “in a good mood,” it is because you have been thinking about good things, thus bad hair day = bad day because you allow bad hair to control your response of emotions.
So when we have a bad hair day, we actually can have a melt down just because we perceive it, not because it is real. Yes the hair may be a mess in fact but our mood because of it is perceived in how we think about ourselves. The real problem with a mood is that a person is emotionally reacting to his thoughts rather than responding with correct emotions toward what is actually happening. If Donald Trump can have a horrible combover hairstyle and be noted for one of the worst hair, yet he doesn’t perceive it to be, then why do we let us affect us? He perceives to be successful, wealthy and in control of his life regardless of his hairstyle, so it is possible to have a bad hair day yet not act out emotionally.
A Simple Solution is stop the habit of bad moods. Stop habitually thinking about things that upset you or make you irritable. Don’t let bad hair days control the mood you are in for the rest of the day. You can choose to be in a bad mood or a good mood for the rest of the day. With all this said, there is one emotion that you should be feeling most of the time. And similar to these wrong moods, it is based on what you are often thinking about. However, this right “mood” is based on thinking the right things. God tells us how to do this in Phil 4:8 : “Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things”. That is the solution, pure and simple. Actively think on the good things. The things that are true, just, honest, lovely—good. Remind yourself often of the blessings and wonderful things in your life. Remind yourself who you really are in Christ. Don’t let moods affect who you really are.
Along with putting out wrong thoughts, you must also strive to put out wrong behavior. Part of taking control of your feelings and thoughts is taking control of the expressed habitual moods. Once you have learned to conquer moods and put yourself in the right mindset, the next step is to display the right emotions in any given circumstance. This involves overcoming habits and actively deciding how to act and think. You are in control of your life, your moods and your behavior, however if they are ruled by you or habits, then you will constantly let them rule you. If you are controlled by the Holy Spirit and let Him control your emotions, moods, thought process and display of actions then a bad hair day will not occur. This means that you ultimately decide what kind of person you will be and what kind of moods you will display regardless of what you eat, wear or what your hair looks like.
If our thoughts are the real reason for our moods, thus our day, then why do we blame it on hair, PMS, foods, colors or others? Can you say “excuses”! We are always looking for a way out and a way to blame something or someone else for our moodiness. Hey, it happens and let’s get real and honest with ourselves. We are not perfect but strive for it in Christ Jesus. Let us put away the habit of excusing our behavior and start walking in the realm of peace and holiness. It starts with our thoughts, which leads to our actions, which leads to our habits (excuses) which leads to our destiny.
Prayer: Lord, help us all to control our thoughts and think of you and the goodness of life. As I trust in you, lean upon you to control and guide me in the goodness of all things. Let me daily be an example of you. In Jesus Name I pray. Amen