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Pickle Britches

I love pickles, do you?  My husband as most of you know calls me sweet pea and he also calls the boys pickle britches.  I often wondered if that meant sour pants, however I came across this picture and realized it was a good name.

I have met some bossy people in my time in fact they are quite annoying.  When I meet a bossy demanding child, then I know they have great potential to grow up being a great leader if trained well.  Many people have wonderful talents and abilities yet they either hide them away or never allow them to manifest because of fear or too busy as they get older.  Every leader is a boss, but every boss is not the leader. This defines the difference between a boss and a leader. The biggest difference between a boss and a leader is the boss is respected and obeyed because of seniority. A leader is respected and looked up to as an example not only because of seniority but mainly because of the qualities of character and ability.

Those who aspire to become leaders must lead by example. Instead of “Go” it is “Let’s go”.  The team must always have a firm belief that the leader will be there during every crisis. Not to fix the blame, but fix the problem. If the team members find that the leader does not follow what he/she preaches, people will not respect. People may obey the boss, but the respect will be missing if they are not a true leader. Leaders gain this respect by their actions, their looks, and they look integral in approach and character.  To be a leader, every boss must display characteristics such as knowledge, planning, anticipation, foresight, action, result oriented approach, perspective, respect every team member, earn their respect, act as a friend and act as a mentor. This is quite a list, but if you want to become a good leader you need these qualities. This is true not only for national leaders but for persons in every leadership position in any organization. Once a person earns the respect of his /her team members he/she ceases to be only a boss and transforms into a leader.  The leaders lead, not push.


The boss drives group members; the leader coaches them.
The boss depends upon authority; the leader on good will.
The boss inspires fear; the leader inspires enthusiasm.
The boss says ‘I’; the leader says ‘we.’
The boss assigns the task, the leader sets the pace.
The boss says, ‘Get there on time’; the leader gets there ahead of time.
The boss fixes the blame for the breakdown; the leader fixes the breakdown.
The boss knows how it is done; the leader shows how.
The boss makes work a drudgery; the leader makes it a game.

Some people believe the ministry is a job but did you know there is a difference too?  I shy away when people use the term, “MY” ministry when it should be the ministry of the Kingdom.  Everyone does have a purpose and not everyone can be a leader but everyone can do their part in the work of the Lord.  Ministry is work but shouldn’t be considered “a job” in the sense of employment sake.  We help each other realize our potential in Christ by developing and strengthening the relationship we have with God and meeting the people’s needs through serving.  Serving is ministry, a job is a have to experience that doesn’t require a heart with Kingdom principles.  A “my” ministry is focused upon the person in bringing glory to themselves more than focus on the person’s welfare that they may be helping.  The ministry of the gospel does not seek financial gain, it seeks spiritual growth, however when you seek the Kingdom, financial growth will automatically be produced and made available.  Ministry is freely given when a job is a requirement.  If a person is doing a particular work in the church such as teaching sunday school and they feel as though it is for the sake of the kingdom and they are willing to sacrifice and to serve to the best of their ability, then it is considered ministry.  If a person only does things half-heartedly and requires that they be paid for their service then it is a job.  Either way, people will be rewarded for what they do in the kingdom for the kingdom.  You reap what you sow.  Sow leadership, you get people who follow.  Sow bossiness and you get people who want to leave.  Sow ministry and you will get servants, sow jobs and you only get people half committed until they find a better income.  I am not saying all people who get paid in the ministry are half-hearted for that would boost most Pastors out of the church and make us all have limited incomes, I am saying however there comes a time when you know if people are committed to the church when they are paid or not.  It all boils down to the heart, and I want my heart to be right, don’t you?  I want to be an effective leader in all areas with the heart of Jesus, serving in ministry for the sake of Jesus Christ!  Amen.


Some people have a job in the church

Others invite themselves into a ministry.

If you are doing it just because no one else will, it is a job.

If you are doing it to serve the Lord, it is a ministry.

If you quit because someone criticized you, it is a job

If you keep on serving, it is a ministry.

If you do it as long as it does not interfere with your other activities, it is a job.

If you are committed to stay even if it means letting go of other things, it is a ministry.

If you quit because no one thanked you or praised you, it is a job.

If you stick with it even though no one recognized your efforts, it’s a ministry.

It is hard to get excited about a job.

It is almost impossible not to get excited about a ministry.

If your concern is success, it is a job.

If your concern is faithfulness and service it is a ministry.

If God calls you into a ministry, don ‘t treat it like a job.

Prayer:  Lord, help me to realize at times when I take you for granted or when I try to do everything on my own.  As our leadership grows and you expand our own personal world to others, let us be a leader as you guide us.  Let us be a servant in ministry but also a leader to guide all to safety in your hands.  Let my heart not stray from you.  In Jesus name.

Ephesians 4:11-13 It was he who gave some to be apostles, some to be prophets, some to be evangelists, and some to be pastors and teachers,  to prepare God’s people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.


1 thought on “Pickle Britches”

  1. I strive every day to be a good leader….never want to be just a boss….A leader is someone that people WANT to follow….a boss is just in charge…Most people do what they HAVE to for their boss, but they do everything they can for a good leader…

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