How does a child act when he or she doesn’t get their way? They may whine, stomp, fold their arms up, don’t talk or scream, pitch a fit and the list goes on. It is evident that the maturity level is not where it needs to be. Children sometimes cannot express their feelings in a way that is responsible nor can they use proper communication because they cannot comprehend. Most of the time a child acts this way when the circumstances around them are unplanned, unexpected or opposite of what they want. If they cannot accept the outcome of the things they cannot control, throwing a fit afterwards seems like the logical thing to do.
Now let us bring this into the adult world. When a person gets upset because they cannot control the circumstances, the first thing they want to do is to put blame on something that was out of their control, or if something unexpected pops up and they let everyone know about it, then it is a sign of immaturity. Many times as adults we should be aware of how we affect others when we decide to give our opinion, be outspoken or throw a fit. So how do we balance all this out?
With children it takes a toll on parents not just to jerk them up and whip their behinds to make them straighten up and stop embarrassing us. However if we practice our love and patience, then sometimes giving the child attention before they explode is all they want. Have you ever been talking to your spouse while he was watching the TV and he pretended to hear you but really didn’t. How did that make you feel? Many times when children feel the need to be heard and want to be loved, they can act out when we are not giving to them what they need. So the next time your child throws a fit, check yourself in seeing if you have neglected to give them some undivided attention time or be creative enough to distract them from reaching a point of meltdown. Through patience we all know the signs of coming to a meltdown, so you can prevent most from happening.
In the adult world, how do we come to maturity in the Christian world? The Bible tells us to seek God and to love Him with all of our heart, mind, soul, strength and to love our neighbor as ourself. How do we love our neighbor as ourself? We serve and we give to them, we take time for them and we get involved with expecting nothing in return except to see them love God with all their heart and grow to reach others. If all we do is provide service at our local church but never seek God for ourselves, we are headed for a burnout. If we only focus on God without service to others, then we become selfish and remain a baby. Doing both is not easy but is a growing stage to make one strong and mature. What level of maturity are you on?
Prayer: Lord, I know that there are times when I want that “ME” time and resort back to alone only with you, and then I have times where I want to do as much as possible to serve others to enhance your Kingdom only to feel weary, so Lord I ask you to give all of us strength, comfort, and wisdom to find balance. I want to be mature in all that I do, to reflect your image to others, and I want others to find the peace and joy that I have found in you. Amen!
Ephesians 4:11-13 New International Version (©1984)
It was he who gave some to be apostles, some to be prophets, some to be evangelists, and some to be pastors and teachers,to prepare God’s people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.