I was in a store the other day and observed a child throwing a fit. The Grandmother was on her cell phone, kept talking and continued to threaten the child with a beating if he didn’t stop interrupting her. The child was around six to eight years old, old enough to know better but he knew what he could get away with. He was yelling and demanding for her to buy him something. He then started hitting her. Her threats didn’t phase him and she didn’t seem to mind getting hit on. Everyone in the store was watching since they were causing a scene. “I am going to whoop you” she would say.
I have observed several times when a parent will ask a child, “Do you want a spanking” or “I am going to wear you out!” Yet, they don’t really mean it. I was always taught if you say something or tell somebody something and don’t follow through with it, either you are a liar or you can’t be trusted. Parents wonder why their children go through a stage of lying when in fact they have had the best teachers, the parents. Our children our prime examples of us, our actions, our words and to the core of who they are. I also had a woman to state that her child was the example of “her fruit” she would say as if she was proud of her child. What she didn’t know was all the turmoil and bad actions her child had been producing. Yes, from her actions of letting her temper flare up, her child was definitely a product of her. Now I know children will always gravitate to doing what they want in their teen years and we don’t always know what is going on. My boys were not perfect during this time nor did I claim them to be. I had to cut the apron strings and have faith they would know what to do in any given situation. I haven’t always been an over protective mom. I let them be boys and we had fun doing all the boy stuff when they were young.
If you have small boys under the age of ten to twelve (before puberty starts) a mommy will be their hero but after they reach a certain age, daddy is their hero. Mothers have a certain love they can give their child that only a mommy can give them. This nourishing aspect must be instilled so strongly in them during this time, they will know how to love their own wives. I have a motto in which I tell all new mothers, “You are a beautiful mother to this precious little one, your ministry is the child that God has given you.” I encourage to spend time with a child when small because the time will come that mommy will become “mom” and mom is in my business. My boys love children, they use to beg me to have more babies. It is really sweet to see my boys run to babies and actually want to hold them, cuddle with them and play with toddlers. They will make great fathers one day. I was a stay home mom having fun with my boys. Yes, I neglected my chores right up to the time before Jeff got home and then I became the tornado in fast action to get all the toys put away before he arrived. During church, we took them every time the church doors were open. Consistentcy and faithfulness is what we tried to instill. Even when they were sick, we took them for prayer. We depended upon God to heal because we had little income during those days for doctor visits.
Our children, are replicas of us. Your children are your fruit. If we say and do the right things, they too will follow in our footsteps. They might stray off the path in teen years, but what has been instilled in them, they will not depart from it. It is us that must keep the faith and not waver during difficult times. It is up to us not to give in to the enemy in temptation because our children are watching. If we worship Jesus with all we have and be not afraid to express ourselves, our children will too. On the other hand, our language, our bad attitudes, our habits, our mistakes and our sins will be repeated through our children because they are “our fruit”. Just like the little child throwing the tantrum, I wonder how many times the grandmother has thrown a fit in her lifetime? We train our children whether we think we do or not. If you find you don’t like yourself or your actions and want to change, think about what your children are learning from you. Outside influences has a great impact too but if we can spend more time with them as they are small we have the best chance in raising the best children to make a difference in the world we live in. The next time you throw a tantrum because you don’t get your way, look around to see who is watching.
Prayer: Lord forgive us for the tantrums we have thrown in public or in our own homes in front of our children. Teach us to be a child of yours, full of peace, holiness, grace and mercy. Open our eyes to the fact of our children being our fruit that you have given us to proclaim you in our world. In Jesus Name, amen.
Psalms 127:3 Sons are a heritage from the LORD, children a reward from him.
Proverbs 22:6 Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.
James 1:18 He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of first fruits of all he created.