The Ladies Summit we had at Owensboro Legacy a couple of weeks ago, I had the privilege to speak about Shattered Reflections. Here are my sermon notes.
I AM….. you fill in the blank…. TWO of the most powerful words but it is what you put after them shapes your reality
If you are like me, it depends on what my mood is that day, what emotions I am feeling or my environment, the people I am around, if I read the Word or prayed…. But better yet what is going on in my mind.
Life – the reality of day to day living. The up’s and down’s and the all in between.
John 6:23 It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh is no help at all.
Galatians 5:16-18: So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh or sinful nature craves.
The sinful nature wants to do what pleases us, the opposite of what the Spirit wants.
These two forces are constantly fighting each other.
By walking in the spirit we can be victorious and have a life that reflects Christ.
FRUIT: Vs 22-25: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.
The Law of Moses was unable to save us because of the weakness of our sinful nature. So God did what the law could not do. He sent his Son in a body like us and died for our sins so the law was fulfilled and we no longer follow our sinful nature but instead can follow the Spirit.
But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.
GOD MADE A WAY
Galatians 5:13 You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.
2 Corthinians 3:17 Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.
We must be LED by the spirit. LED = a verb ACTION meaning to lead, guide or brought.
The difference between lead and follow:
Lead is a strong force.
Follow leaves it us to us on our own.
The Spirit is not a leader like the pace car in the “Daytona 500.” He is a leader like a locomotive on a train.
We do not follow in our strength. We are led by his power. So “walk by the Spirit” means stay hooked up to the divine source of power and go wherever he leads.
People who try to love without relying on God’s Spirit always wind up trying to fill their own emptiness rather than sharing their fullness. And so love ceases to be love.
Love won’t be easy for us because we are not being led and we don’t have the freedom we are looking for. We become trapped in fear relying on our own strength, shattered reflections.
When Christian life looks too hard, we must remember that we are not called to live it by ourselves in our own strength nor are we called to stay in bondage to depression, anxiety, identity lies, shame and guilt, unforgiveness, betrayal .” IT IS FREEDOM
Lets talk about our topics: these lies all give us Physical, behavioral changes and Emotional symptoms or signs of what we are experiencing. They affect us physically, how we act/behave and what we are experiencing emotional.
If we are a triune being: body, soul and spirit.
These affect our body; these affect our soul.
Anxiety and Depression – estimated that 45 percent of people with one mental health condition meet the criteria for two or more disorders.
Depression and anxiety disorders (mess, turmoil, unrest) are medical conditions (circumstance, situation, environment, surrounding).
Anxiety and depression are NOT a result of failure or weakness.
These are feelings from a result of underlying causes (motive or source) and triggers; it’s not the result of something you did or didn’t do.
Physical, behavioral and emotional symptoms occur. (SOUL (HEART, WILL) AND BODY)
Anxiety, or fear and worry, can happen to anyone that usually leads to irrational thoughts and fears that interfere with your daily life.
Physical, behavioral changes and Emotional symptoms
Shame and Guilt –
Guilt: a feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined. It involves the awareness of having done something wrong; it arises from our actions (even if it might be one that occurs in fantasy). GUILT COMES FROM ACTIONS. Guilt is a focus on behavior
The painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper, ridiculous, etc., done by oneself or another.
It’s a painful feeling about how we appear to others (and to ourselves) and doesn’t necessarily depend on our having done anything. Shame is a focus on self,
Shame is, “I am bad.” Guilt is, “I did something bad.” Guilt: I’m sorry. I made a mistake. Shame: I’m sorry. I am a mistake.
Shame is highly, highly correlated with addiction, depression, violence, aggression, bullying, suicide, and eating disorders. (SHAME IS A PAINFUL FEELING THAT RESIDES IN THE MIND THAT AFFECTS THE BODY – FOCUSED ON SELF)
Unforgiveness – How do you know if someone deals with unforgiveness:
- *Experiencing bursts of anger. (You’re likely bottling up your anger.) Oftentimes, the person who is the recipient of the inevitable outburst is not the person who caused the stress or pain
- You’re desperate to make them understand how you feel, you can’t control the hurtful person, but you can control your environment. This can quickly become a negative spiral of compulsive activity. Maybe for you this means keeping your spaces spotless, checking social media repeatedly, or making unnecessary purchases. Maybe it involves comfort eating.
- You’re unable to reframe your experiences
- Find yourselfblamingthe person
“I hold you responsible not just for what you did to me, but how I reacted and responded to what you did. I hold you responsible for my unhappiness.”
- Sickness in the body.
If you’re struggling with stress related illness such as anxiety, depression, or high blood pressure, it may be time to try some forgiveness therapy. (Affects body and soul)
You’re keeping a list of offenses
You hate yourself
- If you’re stuck in unforgiveness, you are probably experiencing a toxic brew of guilt, shame, self-judgment, and self-sabotage.
You replay the scene over and over…and over
- You gossip about them, it’s natural to want to return the hurt to those who have hurt us.
You’re self-righteous and entitled If you harbor the belief that you did everything right and they did everything wrong, you probably need to honestly reexamine your own behavior.
Betrayal – Betrayal is one of the one of the most painful human experiences.
When we see the word “betrayal” we may immediately think “affair.” But betrayal comes in many forms. Abandonment, vicious gossip, and spreading lies.
The damage is our sense of reality is undermined. Trust crumbles. Innocence shattered. We’re left wondering: What happened? How could this happen? Who is this person?
Betrayal is an unavoidable human experience — the positive side of it may help us move toward deeper wisdom and maturity, understand of what love is and what love isn’t. And can also allow ourselves time to heal and understand ourselves — and others — more deeply.
What is important is not to let it destroy your trust in others when that happens.
Identity – enduring and continuous sense of who we are. Who does God say you are?
Fleshly desires – For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do. Galatians 5:19-21 When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God.
Belonging and acceptance – A feeling (soul issue) of acceptance and belonging is an important part of a high performance culture.
Individuals, who feel like they belong, gain security. This sense of security then nurtures self-esteem. Maslow, when writing about the Hierarchy of Needs, believed that most of society’s social problems stemmed from this basic need (for belonging) not being met.
You are here tonight because you want to rid yourself of something, you long for freedom, rest, peace, a quietness that only God can give you.
Growth and transformation rarely come without pain.
Your pain is actually an opportunity to make you Christ like.
God made us triune beings – Body, Soul, Spirit.
- We must see ourselves as this whole being
- Appreciate how God made us without elevating one part over the other.
When we are not healthy in our triune being, we not feeling our best and the people around us cannot experience us in our full capacity.
- Your spirit is the spiritual or supernatural side of you, not a battle ground like the soul
- It is not material,
- It is not visible,
- It’s not of this world, but it’s from God and lives eternal
- Able to interact with the spiritual world.
- It is what allows you to hear from God
- Allows you to have faith for miracles
Soul – An easy way to understand what happens in your soul is whatever happens in your brain – heart-will-personality.
- It’s also invisible like your spirit
- Contains your emotion, your will, your desires, sensory perception, conscious, and your reasoning or logic.
- Solemn says EVERY ISSUE in Life flows out of it
- Words you speak affects your soul to yourself or to others
Now, because of sin, our soul, emotions, will, mind, desires
- Pointed inward – Looks earthward
- Always consumed with the self unless it is willingly disciplines and kept in check.
- Decides what you want to do and send the signal to your physical body in order to act out your decisions.
- Social media is playground for the soul
When God feeds your spirit (you allow or reject), which feeds the soul, (you either believe or choose to not believe) your body will follow.
Remember soul (heart, mind, will, emotions) always wins over knowledge. We know to do good yet we fight against ourselves to struggle to escape. Spirit must be fed daily to win the battle.
Your actions EVERYTHING YOU DO IS controlled by either your soul (your heart, mind, will or emotions) or by the spirit of God = whichever you believe the most will win and then it tells the body what to do.
Soul (psyche) part of flesh but the governor of our heart and mind – patterns, conclusions (joined to the spirit but different) initiates movement based on what it is feeling and thinking. (Personality) Soul never rests and always busy. (Needs to be saved, restored, survive, confusion, worn itself out trying to find direction, needs rest) Psalm 23:3
Why does finding rest for your soul matter?
3 John 1:2:
Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers.”
The prosperity of your soul is linked to the prosperity of your body.
However, it’s easy to forget about taking care of our souls.
Too often, we try to hide our hurts behind busying ourselves with other people. We either don’t want to face God, or we hurt so badly that we are afraid of His work in our hearts. .
ASK: DO YOU MAKE YOUR SCHEDULE WITH GOD OR WE WORK GOD IN OUR SCHEDULE?
When we refuse to embrace solitude even occasionally, we run from God. There is much healing to be found in getting alone with God.
How do we know we need rest for our soul? These shattered lies….
Physical and spiritual fatigue can be two different things, but when we’re tired in our souls, we’re mostly also tired in the physical as well. The body, soul and spirit are so intertwined that they actually affect each other.
- A Lost Hunger for God’s Word
- Feelings of Being Far From God
Have you ever felt so distant from God?
- No Desire to Serve Others
It’s hard to serve others when we feel like God hasn’t taken care of our own spiritual needs. Serving others always works best out of an overflow of a heart, mind and spirit fully rested and satisfied in Christ.
Spiritual depravation can sometimes cause the spiritually exhausted to seek nothing else but our own satisfaction. This can cause people to become entitled because of a lack of in filling and rest in God’s presence.
- Feelings of Uncertainty
Hopelessness is not just the absence of hope, but also the absence of a good amount of rest for the soul. It’s hard to find hope when we’re tired. That’s why it’s very important to rest the soul if we want to continue trying to find hope in God.
You are seen and you are heard, He knows you by name
Everything he has brought you through, is because what seed he has put in you.
You see the enemy in the garden didn’t go after the woman first because she is weak; it is because she has influence
We receive seed in the natural and in the spiritual.
Abraham – we are a promise seed that is our identity. Trust in the process and only He knows what environment that is going to bring forth the fruit.
Luke 10:27 – Love the Lord your God with all your
heart – emotions/feelings – we can take our thought patterns, walk away from
These are the battleground that the enemy comes after. 2 CORTH 10:5 – We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ,
Luke 1:37 Nothing is impossible with God!
When we leave here today, the enemy will come to you and try to make you feel …
Step back and look from a different perspective. God’s view.
Now I want you to finish your statement of I AM………