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A Self Test To Determine If You are Under the Influence of a Religious Spirit

The word of God says we can recognize a tree by the fruit that it bears (Matthew 12:33-37).

Many times we get hurt in the Christian world due to opinions of others or the expectations of others of what they think we should be, do or say.  Communication is not the followed protocol therefore it becomes easy to express your viewpoint to others, hurting the one not present in the aftermath.  Pastors and other leaders are the target. I have found through research it is the “religious spirit” in work and not always the unlearned new believer that causes the hurt.

 A person with the spirit of religion will produce more division than lasting works.

The aftermath of a religious spirit is like a wave of bitterness with a ripple effect that prevents many people from being all they can be in Christ or even turning people the other way and not serving God at all.  The taste of blood from a “preacher did them wrong” can sometimes be irreversible for years until their heart melts and walls are torn down for healing all because a religious spirit pukes on a believer their opinion.

Family bonds within a church community works with communication.  If a brother offends you as the Word tells us, go to him or her and talk about the offense to see if you are “correct” in your own mind versus a sin.  Most of the time it is an opinion  of what is believed it should be versus the latter. Religion and relationship don’t get along, and this is why religious spirits will work diligently to hinder true meaningful relationships between God and His children.

A religious spirit is a demon that wages war against the grace of God in our lives and acceptance of Jesus’ work as. When ritual controls our relationships this is Religion. Ritual minus relationship equals religion. The spirit of religion is an agent of Satan assigned to prevent change and to maintain the status quo by using religious devices.The Pharisees were obvious examples of people who have religious spirits although we would never compare our own behavior to them, a religious spirit is very destructive to our intimate relationships with God.

Religious spirits are more interested in judgment than forgiveness and grace

Religious spirits can manifest in different ways for different people.

It is important to understand that to be influenced does not mean to be possessed, but rather simply means to be:

  • Affected
  • Inspired
  • Moved
  • Swayed
  • Motivated

Most of us are subject to religious spirits to some degree. Paul exhorts us to “test ourselves to see if we are in the faith”, (2 Corinthians 13:5).


Do you listen with a critical ear rather than an open heart

Do you have a tendency to see your primary mission as tearing down what you believe is wrong verses seeing the person’s Godly fruit or Christian walk

Do you feel as though it is your mission to point out or tear down or express your opinion to others when you think something is wrong instead of going to the source

Are you more inclined to see what is wrong with churches rather than what is right and feel the need to “fix” the issues you think is wrong

Do you use gossip and slander to assassinate other peoples’ character and may even use violence to prove your point or even be suspicious of others motives

Do you have a sense that you are closer to God than other people

Do you ever feel like you can never be good enough

You perform Christian duties but have no passion or hunger for God

Do you take pride in your spiritual routine of prayer and other ministries in which you feel you are more qualified to lead than other people or groups and maybe feel as though you have the best team or leadership

Do you hold a grudge against someone who did you wrong

Interested in seeing somebody pay or be punished for their wrongdoing or their past instead of seeing them repent and receive forgiveness and grace from God

Do you reject progress or refuse to embrace change, therefore buck the system, disagree with your leaders or new ministries in the church

Do you see yourself following certain rules, or regulations regarding the outward man, in order to be in right standing with God.  This would include dressing a certain way, legalism, working or earning your salvation

Judging people by their appearance or overreact to carnality or immaturity of the church

Do you feel the need of having recognition and titles in the church world or receive identity in the things in attempt to do for God and church

Do you make a big deal about the doctrines accumulated through head knowledge

Do you use emotionalism as a substitute for the work of the holy spirit or if emotion isn’t expressed believe the Holy Spirit is being hindered

Do you appear righteous but inside filled with anger, resentment and envy

Do you believe you are on the cutting edge of what God is doing and closer to God than your leaders or friends

Are you unable to take rebuke or have a philosophy that you only listen to God

Do you feel an overwhelming guilt you couldn’t ever be good enough

Do you glory more in what God has done in the past rather than in what God is doing in the present or use the words for God to move we must do this as we did back then

D0 you ever feel as though you are not saved, doubt God


A religious spirit gives birth to a counterfeit gift of discernment of spirits. This counterfeit gift thrives on seeing what is wrong with others rather than seeing what God is doing to help them along. If you checked on the self-test, you tend to have a counterfeit gift of discernment. Its wisdom is rooted in the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, and thought the truth may be accurate; it is ministered in a spirit that kills. Suspicion, which is motivated by rejection, territorial preservation or general insecurity, causes this counterfeit gift. However the true gift of discernment can only function with love. In 2 Corinthians 11:13-15, Paul warns them about those who minister in a religious spirit that they try to place a yoke of legalism on the believers. Religions that are based on works will tend to become violent easily, especially when confronted with those who live by faith. This includes “Christian Religions” where a doctrine of works has supplanted the cross of Christ. Those who are driven by religious spirits may try to destroy the true Christian by onslaughts of slander.


The Spirit of Jezebel is a combination of the religious spirit and the spirit of witchcraft that is the spirit of manipulation and control. This spirit is often found in deeply wounded people. Every trial in our lives will either make us bitter or better, and the cross will heal every spiritual wound if we will turn to it. Those who are deeply wounded who do not go to the cross can open themselves up to this evil spirit. The Jezebel spirit is one of the enemy’s most potent forms of the religious spirit that seeks to keep the church and the world from being prepared for the Lord. This spirit attacks the prophetic ministry through which the Lord wants to give timely, strategic direction to His people. Jezebel knows that by removing the true prophets, the people will be vulnerable to her false prophets, which always leads to idolatry and spiritual adultery. When there is a void of the true prophetic word, the people will be much more prone to the deception of the enemy. A religious spirit produces religious pride so that God will not communicate with those who are proud. In Matthew 15:14, Jesus called the religious leaders of the day “blind guides”. A primary strategy of the religious spirit is to get the church devoted to sacrifice in a way that perverts the command for us to take up our crosses daily. This perversion will have us putting more faith in our sacrifices than in the Lord’s sacrifice. It will also use sacrifices and offerings to try to get God to manifest Himself. This is a form of the terrible delusion that we can somehow purchase the grace and presence of God with our good works.

Religious spirits hold people in spiritual slavery. The battle against this spiritual slavery can only be won by unconditional love, in living the Christian life focused on Jesus and the Word of God and being filled with the Holy Spirit.

If you have been affected by the Religious Spirit, take time to ask our Heavenly Father to forgive and to allow us to practice grace instead of judging, to show grace more than pointing out faults and to be humble, full of joy as we lead others by example producing much fruit for the glory of God.  Rebuke the spirit of religion out of your life, resist and walk forward into your identity as the sons and daughters of Jesus Christ, the Lord above all.

God Bless!


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Notes of Marriage Enrichment Class

This month our church Legacy is holding a class on Sunday mornings at 9 during our first service for Marriage Enrichment.  Marriage Counselor Lauren Early and her husband Aaron are leading the group.  Since I love this subject, I thought I would attend, although my husband is preaching in the auditorium, there are always things to learn when it comes to marriage even after 34 years.  Here below is the handout and my notes on the subject.

Week One:

Marriage is a covenant – a promise to care for and keep – exchange of persons as opposed to a contract which is an exchange of promises.  A contractual relationship benefits self but a covenant relationship benefits the other at great cost to self.  I love this statement!  When you see marriage as a covenant and not a contract, you are married to one another for one another and you are not looking for a way out.

God needs to be the center of that before covenant can take place and the longer we stay in marriage covenant, the more God’s grace comes alive.  Marriage is likened to the relationship between Jesus and the church.  You can only become one in a marriage through Christ.  When you hurt, he hurts.  His goals become my goals and united in vision where we see ourselves for the years to come.

We look to Christ together, submitting one to another.  Submission is not domineering but giving ourselves one to another and the husband must give just as the wife.  Submission is not where the wife believes her opinion doesn’t count or matter.

Love is the greatest commandment and therefore a choice and matter of obedience.  It is an action.  People leave marriages because of feelings – “fell out of love”.  We don’t base our covenant on feelings of love but choosing to love, because it is the supernatural love comes from God.  Love is a choice even with the unloveable spouse.  Marriage requires submission which is yielding to another’s will by choice.  Submission requires leadership which is a responsibility more than it is a privilege.  Christ is the ultimate server.

“The more encouragement we give our spouse, the more full potential they will become.  Figure out what submission looks like for your marriage.  It is not comparing yourself to other wives as a helpmate but what you need to be.”  stated Lauren.

“Submission is not a servant but from a husband’s point of view is not domineering either, but more about listening to her viewpoint, weighing and taking account what her needs are.  It is not a feeling.  It must benefit for her as to reference to Christ as a responsibility at the end of the day to make those decisions for the whole family.” stated Aaron.

Lauren also said the power to honor her husband is the type of supernatural power to honor above all other relationships, and we answer to God for how we love and submit to our spouse.

This nugget was my aha moment….(and I hope I state it the way she did)  If we want to know how we are treating our spouse, check ourselves by looking in the mirror because the reflection should be how we are really treating ourselves as well as having their best interest in mind.  In order to meed the needs of our spouse, it is sacrifice as well as a willingness to go out of our own comfort zone.  Even when we disagree it is not an attack on “who” you are but just a passionate opinion.  The more transparent you become the more we can update ourselves on our partners world.

Can’t wait till next Sunday for the next class!  Until next week, hope you gained some insight about the class through the worksheet as well as my notes.  Below is Scripture Reference!

Malachi 2:14, Ephesians 5:32, Galatians 3:28, I Corinthians 12:13 13:4-7, Genesis 2:24, Matthew 22:26-40, I John 4:8 &19, Luke 22:26

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Family Life – We Are Family

This past Sunday, as a family, we were speaking in three different states.  Jeff, my husband was in Tennessee, our oldest son, Lyle and his wife Allison was speaking in Washington DC and the other boys and I here in Owensboro, Kentucky.  

As I look over the years, my boys now men raising their own families, it came down to asking them questions as their viewpoint of how our family was considered in this topic.  We all want to be better parents than our own parents or at least I did so I asked them the same questions. It’s not that we had ‘bad’ parents, it’s just that we all have different personalities, opinions and different parenting styles.  We all change somewhat as we become parents ourselves however the distinct pattern of parenting of programing will linger in some areas.

WHEN THERE IS AN EMOTION/FEELING/PAIN/or CONSISTENCY attached to a routine/instance, children will remember. If your children are grown, take them on a trip of memory lane and ask them these questions too.  Tears were brought to my eyes, just listening to the fun times of family moments.  Our family was not perfect and we survived!

Our message this past Sunday I put together this outline and I am having Bryson, Jordan and Spencer up on the platform with me to go over some things.  


Here are my notes on “We Are Family” message.

There are many kinds of families.

2 parents,

Single parents

Absent parent

Grandparent raising grandchildren – great-grandchildren

Families are much more than  of people who share the same genes or the same address.

Family should be a source of love and support. Blood is thicker than water….

Every family is different. But many families face similar issues. No family is perfect and if you spent a day with another family, you might not see their flaws. But live with them for a month and surely you would. Everyone does not get along all the time. Conflicts are a part of family life.

While the specifics of the problems you go through will be unique to your family, it can be reassuring to know that you’re not alone.

Myths about Family Life

  1. Good families do not have problems.
  2. If you are a good parent your child will not have problems.
  3. Raising children is easy. You should not feel stressed as a parent.
  4. Well-adjusted people balance parenting, work, and personal life with ease.
  5. Therapy is only for really troubled families. 

The truth is, normal, healthy, well-adjusted families often encounter problems. The top 12 problems in families:

  1. Communication Problems
  2. Financial problems
  3. Stress/Exhaustion
  4. Parenting Concerns/Boundaries
  5. Divorce Adjustment/Blended Families
  6. Lack of trust/respect in a relationship
  7. Frequent arguing or Disagreements/Angry outbursts
  8. Physical conflict
  9. Alcohol or drug use
  10. Difference in opinions, personalities, beliefs, values or goals
  11. Issues relating to sexuality
  12. Negative emotions – anger, sadness, anxiety – Feeling isolated, alone or withdrawn

Genesis 1:27 So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.

Then God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it.

Genesis 4:1-2 Now Adam knew Eve his wife, and she conceived and bore Cain, saying, “I have gotten a man with the help of the LORD.”

Later she gave birth to his brother Abel.

Genesis 4:8

While they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and killed him.

Was God the perfect parent? Did God fail as a Father?

In the beginning after God created man, he soon acknowledged that man should not be alone. So he created a companion to be with Adam. The act of putting Adam and Eve together shows us that relationships are important to God.  So every human since then has been born into a primary social group (family) to connect with.

There is something wonderful about God making sure that we are always connected and not alone. God sees relationship as essential in making us successful creations. Even though our family sometimes annoys and embarrasses us, it might actually be worse if they didn’t exist. The role of the family then is to love and keep a connection with us.

The very first family in all of history = dysfunction

  1. The curse of sin entered into this world that you and I are still paying for.
  2. God kicked them out of the garden to fend for themselves and life became immeasurably harder. They experienced for the first time pain and hardship and they brought two boys into this world who grew up and jealousy arose between them.

The perfect family is a mirage in the desert. This expectation of perfection is that dis-empowers us from investing in our own families and if we compare our family to this false image of the perfect family, we give up…. Divorce happens etc…


Throughout the years, I may not have always used the Word in the content of love, so what was our Scriptures the boys remember most?

FAMILY SCRIPTURES – Phillips family Scriptures we instilled in our children:

God didn’t give us Spirit of fear, but of power, love and sound mind

Reap what you sow

Sin you will always find you out

Disobedience is same as witchcraft

Greater is he than he that is in the world

Repent and be baptized every one you and you shall get the holy ghost



Train up a child in the way they should go and they shall not depart from it. To choose to be around others that are up to no good, you will get in trouble to. We tried to be the best parents that we could be and protect them the best we knew how.


No one is without authority. In Romans 13:1, Paul tells us that we should submit to authority over us.   HONOR….God does not want us to be without direction. When we submit ourselves to family, there is so much we can learn and helpful suggestions we can get. God put many people in our lives to help support our journey in discovering him and ourselves. We all can learn something from everyone in our family.

Blind spot

Our blind spot is an area that we cannot see. As a child, we feel like our family doesn’t quite see us for who we are, but for who they want us to be. They don’t recognize our gifts and talents and acknowledge our ideas, but instead put their experience and wisdom above ours.

In life, the thing we need the most…. is the thing we don’t give enough of. So if we feel like our parents don’t respect us, then we don’t give respect. If we feel as if someone is not trying to understand us, then we don’t try to understand.


Understanding that conflict is normal is the first step in learning to deal with these situations. It is important for families to learn appropriate ways to deal with problems that will promote growth and cohesion.

Poor Family Communication

  • The conflict in this arrangement is that there are no opportunities to discuss family values, issues and other important topics; this often leads to disagreements. Communication conflicts are also present in families that lack healthy communication skills and engage in yelling, cursing, blaming and insulting.    
  • Parent-Child Power Struggles: A parent-child power struggle can create conflict and stress for the entire family. Having a child who wants to control the parent leads to increased parent frustration and decreased patience when dealing with other family members. The other children often feel that the defiant child is receiving more attention and may start acting out them.


  1. Talk– communication is the key and often the first step to finding solutions. Be calm and honest about your concerns when discussing your problems with a loved one. Communication issues are usually at the root of most relationship problems
  2. Accept your differences– it can help avoid unnecessary conflict if you can recognize that people have different ideas, opinions and beliefs and you may not always be in agreement. Agree to disagree. Fighting fair.
  3. Have fun together– even when things are tough, it’s important to find the time to have fun with your loved ones.

QUESTION: WHAT IS ONE WAY YOUR FAMILY HAD FUN TOGETHER? (Vacations/play games/dad involved in sports/ mom let us make home movies/ paint faces /sledding)

4.          Staying Close Knit – It’s all too easy for family members to drift apart. That’s why regular family meals (whether it’s breakfast or dinner or even weekly meals if members are living apart) are so important; ask basic questions at dinnertime (e.g., what went well this week and what we’re looking forward to next week) while you’re all still living together.

Keep up important daily and weekly family traditions, such as weekly game night—even when everyone gets seemingly too busy for everything else. Keep up important daily and weekly family traditions, such as weekly game night—even when everyone gets seemingly too busy for everything else.

QUESTION: WHAT IS ONE THING YOU CAN REMEMBER ABOUT MEAL TIME/SHARE TIME? (Bless the food, restore, prayer time , what happened at school)

5.    Balancing Work and Home Life/ Getting the Family Organized – If life were perfect we’d have enough time to pursue our dreams and also spend as much quality time with our family as we want every day. This being the real world, we all struggle with work-life balance. Remember, it’s quality time that matters most—those micro-moments of connection we share every day, rather than quantity (although quantity matters too!). It’s hard enough getting yourself organized. Through a partner and possibly kids into the mix and chaos can quickly ensue.

QUESTION: WHAT IS ONE THING YOU CAN REMEMBER? (Laid clothes out/ironing clothes….lunch money, etc)

6.          Agreeing on Parenting Decisions/Boundaries – The biggest parenting decision is whether or not to have kids in the first place. After that, you and your partner might disagree on things like discipline, saving for college, teaching them religion, and even lying about Santa. This is another one of those “choose your battles” topics—fight for what actually matters most (which daycare or school to send your kids to) and let go of or compromise on the rest (whose turn it is to give the baby a bath).


7.          Handling Arguments – There are good fights, the kind that clear the air, and then there are bad fights, the kind that expose and further widen the cracks in our relationships’ foundations. Sometimes it’s all a matter of how we argue, not what we’re arguing about. Use a more rational (rather than emotionally charged) approach when you argue and offer the solution first to help keep the peace in your family. Fighting in front of your kids isn’t a bad thing, either.


8.          Divvying Up Chores – Speaking of chores, just about no one enjoys doing them, but unless everyone pitches in family members can start to feel resentful. Chores also teach kids important lessons.


So every human is born into a (family) to connect with.

God makes sure that we are always connected and not alone.

God sees relationships as essential part of making us successful and find abundant living as well as leave a legacy! .

The role of the family then is to love and keep a connection to pass on to future generations. Agree? WE ARE FAMILY!

What are they going to do better?

Better with own children: Resolving conflict resolution – without disconnect

Thru the busiest, try not to have seasons being disconnected.  Connection is important!

Below is our recorded messages.


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The Gift Within

I Timothy 4:14

Neglect not the gift that is in thee…..

Everyday I see people come in and out of my life.  My contacts may be from the Church we pastor or the Juice Bar that I own and operate.  What I do know in the many people who I see or talk to, is that they are people and people desire relationship with someone who is going to give them hope.  They also desire someone they can do life with, to share experiences and dreams with.  They want people to inspire them, encourage and pray for them.

Just this past week, I had a customer come thru the doors with tears streaming down her face, crying.  I gave her a glass of “happy berry juice” and also a smoothie as she waited patiently for me to finish.  Then upon leaving, I hugged her and prayed for her.  She gripped me tightly as she explained her grandmother was on her death-bed and that she knew it was a matter of time. This saddened me also.  Her hug was so deep and tight, she needed comfort, like a child with a mother.  This touched my heart deeply.  The ironic thing, this is not a one time experience for me.  It has happened several times.  Ministry…..

I experienced life of stress and parenting in my twenty’s and thirty’s.  In my forty’s I felt like I was searching for significance and career as well as my identity since I was no longer raising children in the home.  It has taken me over 54 years to discover this.  What I have inside me is a gift.  A gift to give to others.  There is no one like me and there is no one like you.  We all are created unique and we all have gifts to give to others.  I do not expect others to be like me nor act or think like me.  Sometimes I think I am a little hyper in my mind.

Although I involve myself in many outlets, I enjoy what I do.  I enjoy serving others.  How about you?  What is your gift?  What is your purpose?  How can I help you?

This is my link if you want to discover your hidden possibilities in what God has called you.  Let’s discuss!

Continue to use your gifts and let your light shine!  Someone out there needs you!

In His Service


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There Is No Condemnation

Romans 8

There is no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh but after the spirit.  For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and death.  …. For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit…. to the spiritually minded is life and peace.

This morning, I was thinking of a coaching session I had yesterday.  The barrier with my client wasn’t that she didn’t believe God wanted to do it for her or couldn’t do it for her, but that the enemy put up a wall to prevent her from reaching her goal she was trying to receive.  She reacted out of fear that God either didn’t want her to have her goal reached because she may have more responsibility after attaining the goal or too much freedom and act foolishly.

After digging deeper into the issue, I explained that our heavenly father WANTS her to have the freedom she is trying to attain.  He is not keeping it from her.  The issue was that the enemy had told her a lie.  A lie that was embedded out of condemnation and a works mentality.  We cast out the lie, her mind is renewed but the thinking will have to be re-directed for a time so her habits will change.  She no longer needs to be fearful of changing for the better.  God wants her better!

Condemnation gives you no hope.  Conviction from the Holy Spirit gives you hope.  She had no hope of reaching her goal because of the lie.

If you are struggling with something today, ask yourself the question “Am I hopeful or do I feel as though I cannot reach a state of peace about a subject.”  If it is the latter, then cast out the lie and re-direct your thinking.

Continue to walk in peace of His perfect love because it will cast down the fear.  Boost your faith by believing God not only wants you to have peace in every situation but He wants you blessed.  I want you to be blessed and find hope to live abundantly!

In His Presence be blessed!


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Teaching About Prayer

When my husband asked me to speak on a Wednesday night, my first reaction was to tell him “no” and that was just because in this season of my life I felt as though I was too busy to study and prepare.  The Juice Bar keeps me hopping just to keep up with book work and ordering supplies.  I felt like a “plan B” instead of honored.  I am just being real and transparent.  I had several things going on that week and three days to study was cram time.

Although I am quite capable of retrieving in my head the knowledge of years of study, I am still Choleric and its hard for someone to ‘tell’ me what to do, not my convenience and yet still the topic of prayer.  Prayer… boring to me was not a good juicy topic even though it is a much needed subject because I have people who come to me and ask me how they should pray or directions on how to do it.  So I put on my creative hat and stayed up late to pull it all together.  Below is my sermon notes and the youtube clip.  Hope you enjoy! WATCH HERE 


PRAYER: DIRECT COMMUNICATION a spiritual communion with God, in fellowship, interchange or sharing of thoughts or emotions; the act of sharing, holding in common; participation.


TO FORM A RELATIONSHIP OF LOVE, CHARACTER, ACTIONS (partner with someone dependence, alliance,)


In a relationship: We want authentic – truth – loyalty & protection – love – security – acceptance as well as identity. Prayer forms all these things in our human behavior when we connect with God.


If you look at prayer as a duty or works, you will feel guilty because you are not doing it. We all have been told maybe “how to pray” “what to say” “when to pray” “where to pray” based on how others either got results, picked a prayer from the bible etc…


We must look at prayer as a spiritual oneness with God, our mind, body, spirit, or very soul melting into His heart to guide us, show us and love us as we are as we conform to His ways & will and not necessarily our own. A bond that will not separate. The glue that holds us together.


The Lord God Almighty can do all things; there is nothing impossible for Him (Luke 1:37).

The Lord God Almighty hears the prayers of His children. He commands us to pray, and He promises to listen when we do. “In my distress I called to the LORD; I cried to my God for help. From his temple he heard my voice; my cry came before him, into his ears” (Psalm 18:6).
He answers prayer. “I call on you, O God, for you will answer me” (Psalm 17:6).

“The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles” (Psalm 34:17).


I know as a parent you can tune your kids out sometimes…. But we still HEAR THEM!


JAMES 4:2 Yet you don’t have what you want because you don’t ask God for it.


Everything we do in life, there is always an asking., and relationship is always involved – time, awareness, thoughtfulness and sacrifice – communication and asking

Child to parent…. Relationship – ASKING IS A PART

Dating…. Relationship ASKING IS A PART

Friendship…. Relationship – ASKING IS A PART

Marriage…. Relationship – ASKING IS A PART


We go throughout life with Relationships/communication and asking


Matthew 7:7  “Ask, and it will be given to you, seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.

Matthew 21:22 And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.”

Mark 11:24  Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

John 14:13-14 Whatever you ask in my name, this I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask me anything in my name, I will do it


There’s an undeniable, unknowable, invisible mystery to the power of prayer.

We may dismiss it, downplay it, or even devalue its critical importance.

We may think it is a good idea in theory—if only it would actually make a difference.

Oftentimes people become disappointed and disillusioned when they pray to God to grant a specific outcome or desire and their “prayer” is not answered.

Many people think a miracle has happened when just such a prayer results in God’s bringing about the desired outcome.

Despite what we may or may not understand about prayer, God has deliberately chosen this particular vehicle to commune with his people. It is His way to partner in the fulfilling of his will. Prayer is the portal that brings the power of heaven down to earth.


The Prayer of Jabez –

Daniels prayer

How to pray in one hour: Praise, Repetition, Reading of the Word, Meditation, Thanksgiving, and Praise

Prayer Wheel

MY Prayer Sheet


Name Salvation Healing Deliverance Special Prayer  
  1. Plead the blood of Jesus – blood on the door post
  2. People to receive, be drawn by His Spirit – no hindrances, no walls to prevent – open to hear
  3. Put people in place for divine intervention – put angels around them in protection
  4. Rebuke diseases, spirits, cast them out bind to them a spirit of love and healing
  5. Praise for results to manifest


Boys: Prayer bedtime – around the table (form a tradition)

Prayer lines at church –

According to the Internet 4,200 religions

Jewish Law: pray three times daily: in the morning, in the afternoon and at nightfall the people who remain standing on their feet after making three steps forward. This is made to get closer to God. The Jews have the special prayers for each situation in their lives. . Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. Abraham introduced prayer in the morning, Isaac—in the afternoon, and Jacob added one at night.

King David, for example, declared that he prayed three times daily,6 and Daniel (in Babylon) prayed three times daily facing in the direction of Jerusalem.

For Muslims, the five daily prayer times (called salat) They also serve as a reminder of the connection that Muslims the world over share through their faith and shared rituals. Islamic teaching requires Muslims to engage in ritualistic washing of the hands, feet, arms, and legs. Prayers are on a rug and facing the sun.

Buddhists don’t pray to a Creator God, but they do have devotional meditation practices which could be compared to praying. Radiating loving-kindness to all living beings is a practice where one dedicates the goodness of one’s life to the benefit of all living beings as well as praying for a particular person.

Church of Satan worldwide has set aside the 6 p.m. hour every day to pray for the demise of the Christian church, and most specifically for its pastors. Surprisingly, most card-carrying satanists do not worship Satan or any other form of the devil — they are actually atheists. The Church of Satan, founded in the mid-1960s: “Satan to us is a symbol of pride, liberty and individualism, and it serves as an external metaphorical projection of highest personal potential. They do not believe in Satan as a being or person.”

The Church of Satan puts the individual at the center of the universe “a-theist” to an “I-theist.”

Jehovah Witness 90% followed by Mormon 85% pray daily followed by us Christians at 79%

Pew Research Center:

55% of Americans say they pray. As well as believe you should attend church once a week and read the bible once weekly. But 85% believe in God as certain.

The same survey found that 63% of Christians in the U.S. say praying regularly is an essential part of their Christian identity.

Women (59%) are more likely than men (41%) to pray every day. Ages 30-49 pray daily more than any other age group.

Education: HS or less followed by some college vs. those who had college/graduate degree.

For those who make less than $30,000 a year prayed daily followed by the 50-90 thousand (those who made 30-50 thousand prayed less) followed by those who made over 100 grand

Married people prayed more followed by those who never married vs. partners rarely prayed as widows.

Pray in Faith

Another popular idea is that the amount of faith we have determines whether or not God will answer our prayers. However, sometimes the Lord answers our prayers in spite of our own lack of faith. In Acts 12, the church prays for Peter’s release from prison (v. 5), and God answers their prayer (vv. 7-11). Peter goes to the door of the prayer meeting and knocks, but those who are praying refuse at first to believe that it is really Peter. They prayed he would be released, but they failed to expect an answer to their prayers.

In faith:

Acts : Rise up and walk!

James 5:14-16 Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer of faith will save the one who is sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven. Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.


Always & With Thanksgiving

Ephesians 6:18 praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication. To that end keep alert with all perseverance, making supplication for all the saints,

Philippians 4:6-7 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.


God calls us to be modern-day watchmen. The Bible speaks of “watches,” which are specific times of the day or night. There are basically eight watches covering 24 hours. Every prayer watch has a purpose.
Today more than ever, it is important that we pray and seek the mind of the Lord: “Thy Kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven” (Matthew 6:10). Major decisions we are confronted with require us to know God’s individual will for our lives.


  • Meditation and self-evaluation. Jewish tradition it is the end of the old day and the beginning of the new day.
  • A time of humbling yourself and allowing the Lord to search your heart.
  • A time of repentance and realigning your heart with His purpose.
  • A time to be strengthened, a time to quiet your soul and ask the Lord to remove any distractions from your heart.
  • After the business of the day is a time to release anxieties to the Lord before going to sleep.
  • This is a time to meditate on God’s Word. Meditation quiets our emotions, realigns our mind, and frees our will to do the will of God. What we could not hear clearly earlier in the day, we begin to hear during this time. During this watch, ask God to give you clear directions for the next day and about His call on your life.
  • Jesus used this time to Jesus also healed many sick people during this time (Mark 1:32; Luke 4:40). This watch is usually for those who have a strong apostolic calling and anointing to break strongholds and walls.
  • This watch is for seasoned Christians who are determined to do mighty things with boldness in the Lord.
  • Focus on your future; pray for your future and blessings.


  • Release a canopy of praise and worship over your life. (Paul and Silias gave thanks – angels released on our behalf, a time of visitation and supernatural happenings of God.
  • It was at the midnight hour that God struck down the first-born of Egypt, which resulted in His people being released from captivity and set free to worship Him.  This watch is a time when God deals with the enemies that are trying to keep us from entering into His perfect plan for our lives.


  • This time is known as the witching hour where witches try to control and take advantage.
  • This watch is a time for disciplined Christians to intercede and take back from the enemy the authority that he has attempted to steal.
  • This is the period to pray for God’s provision to be released (Luke 11:5-13; Acts 16:3).
  • It is also time for miracles and for applying the Blood of Jesus.
  • Often, we are awakened during this time with dreams God has given to us. God uses dreams and visions to bring instruction and counsel to us as we sleep. He also reveals areas where we need to concentrate our prayers and intercession. “In a dream, in a vision of the night, when deep sleep falls upon men, while slumbering on their beds, then He opens the ears of men, and seals their instructions.” (Job 33:15).
  • The devil can also attack you in dreams (nightmares), so always pray before you go to sleep and ask God to keep you from the enemy’s devices.


  • Jesus walked on water. This is the time of the morning when the Israelites were delivered from slavery in Egypt
  • When we can see divine intervention in our lives.
  • Declare the mercies of the Lord over you life and those in your sphere of influence.
  • This is the time the Lord will give you faith and courage to step out and follow Him in the face of adversity.
  • Declare the newness of God in your life, new mercies, new favor and new grace, wisdom, revelation. Speak to the storms in your life (death and life in power of tongue)
  • Declare promises of the Lord!
  • This is the time for all of the enemy’s plans and strategies to fail. This watch is for gaining territory, establishing the spirit of prosperity and stopping the devil from hijacking blessings and favor.
  • This prayer watch sets our day before it begins.
  • This is an opportunity to set things in place before the devil and his demons have a chance to ruin it. Accidents, deaths, thefts, job loss, and any other acts of the devil can be stopped during this watch when intercessors obey the voice of the Lord and fill the morning with powerful prayers.


  • The first watch of the day, consecrate yourself to the will of God for the day.
  • During this watch, pray for such issues as healing in your body, relationships, family, government, and the economy.
  • Time for the Holy Spirit to prepare us for service (2 Corinthians 9:30; Ephesians 4:12)
  • Acts 2:15 says it was the “third hour of the day” (or 9:00 A.M.) when the Holy Spirit descended in the Upper Room on the day of Pentecost to equip the 120 disciples for service.
  • Regular work schedules usually begin between the hours of 6:00 A.M. and 9:00 A.M. As you step out, ask the Holy Spirit to equip you for the day.


  • Holy Spirit poured out upon disciples –
  • #9 represents gifts and fruits of the Holy Spirit.
  • The Israelites used this as a time for corporate prayer. Daily prayer and instruction at the temple. We should use this for the power and character of the Holy Spirit to be released in the church – revival and spiritual awakening.
  • This is a time to watch for the Word of the Lord to be fulfilled in your life.
  • This is also the time to receive the supply of all resources needed for every project God has assigned you to fulfill (Exodus 12:35-36).
  • This was the time that the Israelites got everything that they had to use to build the Tabernacle in the wilderness.
  • Pray for the provision to accomplish whatever God wants you to do.
  • We must take up our cross and commit ourselves to Jesus Christ.


Jesus died on Cross.

Pray God would redeem the time, restore the years, pray for wisdom and revelation.

Rebuke spirits, decree the path of your destiny

The midday is the beginning of the sixth hour (12:00 P.M.)

This is the time when the sun is at its fullest and brightest. Pray that your life would be bright.

This is also the time to pray to not be led into any temptation, trap or snare of the enemy.


Jesus Christ died on the cross during this watch. (3:00 P.M.)

This is when Peter and John entered the temple and healed the lame man .

Pray for healing to be released upon those who have been captive to sickness and disease, miracles be released on the earth, miracles would glorify God.

The power of prayer does not flow from us; it is not special words we say or the special way we say them or even how often we say them.

We cannot access powerful prayer by using “magic formulas.”

The power of prayer is not based on a certain direction we face or a certain position of our bodies. The power of prayer does not come from the use of artifacts or icons or candles or beads.

The power of prayer comes from the omnipotent One who hears our prayers and answers them.


Prayer places us in contact with Almighty God, and we should expect almighty results, whether or not He chooses to grant our petitions or deny our requests. Whatever the answer to our prayers, the God to whom we pray is the source of the power of prayer, and He can and will answer us, according to His perfect will and timing.

  1. Power Of Prayer – How do I tap into it?
    The power of prayer is not the result of the person praying. Rather, the power resides in the God who is being prayed to.1 John 5:14-15 tells us, “This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us – whatever we ask – we know that we have what we asked of him.”
  2. No matter the person praying, the passion behind the prayer, or the purpose of the prayer – God answers prayers that are in agreement with His will. His answers are not always yes, but are always in our best interest. When our desires line up with His will, we will come to understand that in time. When we pray passionately and purposefully, according to God’s will, God responds powerfully!



What Happens to your body when you pray?

2014 Injected with Dye – Brain Scan

“We see not only changes in the activity levels, but in different neurotransmitters, the chemicals in our brain.”

Because the brain basic body functions like heart rate, blood pressure, and the immune system, there’s evidence to show that by doing these practices, you can cause a lot of different changes all the way throughout the body, which could have a healing effect.” Dr Andrew Newburg


“The more you focus on something — whether that’s math or auto racing or football or God — the more that becomes your reality, the more it becomes written into the neural connections of your brain,” Newberg says.


Brain reacts in the frontal lobe as just as you were talking to a friend and that atheist had no brain activity.

Scientifically, we know this is true. It takes 21 days of focused thinking about one thought to form that neural pathway. It takes 63 days of thinking about that thought everyday to permanently wire that belief or thought in and to get it to become what naturally drives us without having to think.


As is the conclusion to everything, if we do what the Bible says, our brain and life will be shaped to have success, peace, happiness, and passion. That includes:

  • Memorizing scripture daily
  • reading the Bible daily
  • taking each thought captive and replacing it with truth
  • thinking on what is pure and eternal.
  • Be in constant prayer and conversations with the Holy Spirit to have him lead your day and every decision.

Do not be overwhelmed- this is a practice, a life long journey. The more you do it, the easier and completely natural it becomes!



At such times, the body’s metabolism decreases, the heart rate slows, blood pressure goes down, and our breath becomes calmer and more regular.


This physiological state is correlated with slower brain waves, and feelings of control, tranquil alertness and peace of mind.


This is significant because Benson estimates that over half of all doctor visits in the U.S. today are prompted by illnesses, like depression, high blood pressure, ulcers and migraine headaches, that are caused at least in part by elevated levels of stress and anxiety.

Individuals who prayed daily were shown to be 40 percent less likely to have high blood pressure than those without a regular prayer practice.





I don’t believe that our prayer changes God’s mind or improves God’s disposition. God will do what God will do. Our basic prayer is: God, be God. Be the God you have shown yourself to be. 


Would God be something else if we didn’t pray? No.

Would God hate if we didn’t beg God to love? No.

Would God ignore a cancer or marriage unless we remembered to pray and did so fervently? No.

It is God’s nature to love, to show mercy, to forgive, and to redeem. Our prayers don’t modify God’s nature.

What, then, do our prayers do? At one level, they are like a child’s cry for a parent’s help. They just burst forth. We see a need, and we cry to God. We feel a pain, and we cry to God. Our prayers don’t always cause events to change, rather they recognize God’s presence in and through the events.


Our prayers align us with God.

It brings God close to us so we can listen.

He suggests—we ask—we thank—we listen.


We must look at prayer as a spiritual oneness with God, our mind, body, spirit, or very soul melting into His heart to guide us, show us and love us as we are as we conform to His ways & will and not necessarily our own. A bond that will not separate. The glue that holds us together in relationship and that he will never leave nor forsake us as we live this life on earth knowing one day we will see him..




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Practicing Gratitude Daily

One of the things my husband has always said, “Be grateful”.

If you are not grateful then it limits your potentials.  Practicing gratitude unlocks your potential in everything including your peace of mind.

Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. I Thessalonians 5:18

I found this article from Anna P and wanted to share.


Practicing gratitude leads to forgiveness, which honors love and compassion. Love is the true healing energy, and it always starts with self-love. It always comes back to the self.

We, us, you and me, as long as we really love ourselves, will live life from a place of gratitude. Words are submissions of intent, and even when we are not aware, we are sending out a message to God.

The energy of gratitude is a pure love energy. It is the vibration of constant positive change.

The 10 rules of practicing gratitude:

  1. Honor what you have.

Whenever you find yourself wanting something to change, start by being grateful for what you already have. There is always something to be grateful for. Even when we are down, feeling lost and depressed, we can search for the inner feeling of gratitude.

  1. Order more.

Being grateful is the same as ordering more to be grateful for. If you want your health to change, we must embrace and love the work that the body is already doing. Feeling gratitude for our breath, our vision, our hearing etc. If we want a better house to live in, we must be grateful for the home that we already have, or the couch that we are offered by a friend. No matter the status of our current shelter – giving thanks for what is already there, is inviting in more to feel grateful for.

  1. Say thank you out loud.

In your daily life, gratitude starts with mindfulness. Once you are mindful, aware of everything around you, you will be able to see the little things that will create a feeling of “thank you”. Those magic little big words, thank you. Start by giving thanks for the things that are beautiful around you, that you see every day. The flowers that you pass, and the air that you breathe. The subtle things like, thank you for these comfortable shoes or the sound of that bird I just walked by.

Giving thanks is the ultimate act of gratitude, even though it is merely an honoring of the energy through words. The power is in the feeling behind the words that we speak and behind the intention thereof.

  1. Be aware.

By being more aware, the gratitude effect will grow, slowly and steadily. From the self-talk and the awareness, there will grow an inner compassion for life as it is. What we put our attention towards grows, and what we hold as our inner energy will draw to itself more that will match it perfectly.

The Change will show itself as having a more positive outlook on life, wanting to give more, faster healing, depression, and anger disappears and more things to be grateful for keeps showing up.

  1. It is natural.

Being grateful is natural. When we strip ourselves of our hurts and our clutter, when we get back to our true balance, gratitude is a part of who we are. The trick is to be able to tap into that naked and honest bliss, even when we are preoccupied with life and its busy schedule.

Even when in the middle of what we might see as chaos, we can condition ourselves to feel the grace and the appreciation for all that we have. We can step into it like a state of being, knowing that it is truth.

  1. Gratitude is truth.

Anything leading us away from gratefulness is a lie. The hardest thing for many, and I know it was for me, is to stop measuring where you are when you are going after a dream. It is easy to get caught up in where you are at this moment, forgetting that every step along the way has value and something to cherish. I was so hungry for health, I often forgot to appreciate how much further I had gotten, or that I was alive and breathing. Keeping the eye on the ball, always looking ahead can also keep us from seeing what is right in front of us.

  1. Be in the NOW.

It is always about this very moment. The magic of the now. Someday, one day, soon, when only, are outlooks keeping us from seeing that this moment is the only one there is.

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. – Albert Einstein
  1. Gratitude comes from the heart.

Gratitude doesn’t come from the mind. It is not a thought, it is a feeling, a state of being. It is a heartfelt feeling, and it fills the entire body with a nurturing, positive, healing energy. It is very similar to love, but it is directed towards the recognition of all that is. We can be grateful for every single thing in our lives, good, bad and ugly.

  1. Gratitude will show you your true potentials.

Gratitude opens the heart, and it opens the portal for rapid healing and nurturing manifestations. The magic of life will flow towards us, and every cell in our body will align with this vibration.

When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around. – Willie Nelson
  1. True freedom.

Look at gratefulness as a gateway to freedom. The simplicity is mind-blowing. Everybody can do it, feel it, practice it and reap the benefits. The simple yet profound truths are the most powerful there is. We are all capable of tapping into that magical feeling of grace and appreciation that will change our whole lives. Nature reveals its truth by keeping it simple.

Let nothing take away your gratitude towards the life you are living right now. It is a gift. It is the light that will keep on shining when everything else seems lost and dark.

The challenge is this:

Gratitude does not come from the mind.

It is not a thought, it is a feeling, a state of being.

It is a heartfelt feeling, and it fills the entire body with a nurturing, positive, healing energy. It is very similar to love, but it is directed towards the recognition of all that is.

A few tips for practicing gratitude in your day:

When you feel alone, feel grateful

When you feel sad, feel grateful

When you feel hurt, feel grateful

When you feel discouraged, feel grateful

When you feel lost, feel grateful

When you feel defeated, feel grateful

When you feel hopeless, feel grateful

Whenever you feel lost in your own drama or chaos, stop and be still.

Take a moment and pull yourself back. This is not your truth, only your play. Connect with everything you are grateful for, and let the rest go. Let it center you and keep you focused on what really matters. Your center comes from a news and propaganda-free zone. No fear, no blame, no lies and drama is wanted. Keep it simple and keep it true.

Write of gratitude in your journal.

Such a simple and easy tool.

Express your intent.

As you keep looking for things to be grateful for, express them, live them, feel them and be them. Allow this feeling to come through you as you honor and acknowledge it. Incorporate it in your everyday life. Say hello to every day with the intent that it will be yet another day filled with gratitude and wonder.

Not that it is anything new at all. It is the language of God, from pure love. It is the connection to truth, unfiltered. It is not a thought, an idea or a philosophy. It is a state of being. It is a brainless place where we know that there is something so much bigger than us. Something bigger than life.

Saying thank you is not the same as being grateful.

Saying I love you is not the same as loving someone.

Saying I will, is not the same as doing.

Saying I forgive you is not the same as forgiveness.

Gratitude cultivates an appreciation for all things. It can be trained, by practicing every day.


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Shifting Your Mindset

A fixed mindset will only take you so far in life and it may not be where you want to goSHIFT (move or change) YOUR MINDSET

Romans 12:1-2

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

What we think, can alter and shape our world to a better place.   EVERYTHING in life starts with our mindset.

A person’s mind is so powerful, we can invent, create, experience, and destroy things with thoughts alone. It starts with our belief system.

The mind is the mental reasoning, or understanding is in itself neutral. What it is exposed to is what matters. It performs the process of discrimination between good and evil, and so supplies the data to conscience.

“The mind” is not just only our “conscience;” The “renewed mind,” or the mind acting under the influence of the Spirit.

First, of deciding what the will of God is; and, secondly, of choosing and acting upon it. RIGHT ACTION

The work of the Holy Ghost first begins in the understanding, and is carried on to the will, affections, and conversation, till there is a change in us into the likeness of God, in knowledge, righteousness, and true holiness. Thus, to be godly, is to give up ourselves to God.

OLD NATURE: The old way of thinking has not gone away. Many still struggle with temptations in their mind, bitterness, depression, fear, hopelessness, frustrations, problems.

But the battle still rages in the mind.

God’s Part vs. Our Part

God’s Part

“For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.”

2 Timothy 1:7 (NIV)

Three gifts are promised by God for every true Christian-a spirit of power, a spirit of love, and a spirit of self-discipline. we take, and apply.

Much of what we think about is directly connected to what we are feeding into our mind. And what goes into your mind affects your whole life.

Do you say, “I am not creative, I am not athletic, or I am not a math person?

To reach our potential we must start thinking different. STOP LIMITING OURSELVES.

GOD DIDN’T CREATE JUNK, stop putting God in a box and limiting Him in your life and how to change.

We are not chained to our current capabilities. We have the ability to change and neuroscience tells us that our brain can change it gives us a new look of renewing your mind.

Famous people who were told they could not be anything. Sylvester Stallone, Lucille Ball, Einstein

Dani Johns – raised on welfare, abused at 3, pregnant at 17, homeless at 21 – but at age 23 millionaire. She tells people who the poverty beginning wasn’t going to take hold of her mind.

Physiological Manifestation to Mindset:


People in a fixed mindset believe you either are or aren’t good at something, based on your inherent nature, because it’s just who you are.

People in a growth mindset believe anyone can be good at anything, because your abilities are entirely due to your actions.

In a fixed mindset, you believe “She’s a natural-born singer” or “I’m just no good at dancing.”

In a growth mindset, you believe “Anyone can be good at anything. Skill comes only from practice.”

The fixed mindset believes trouble is devastating. …Give up now.”

The growth mindset believes trouble is just important feedback in the learning process.

In a fixed mindset, you want to hide your flaws so you’re not judged or labeled a failure. Failures define you.

In a growth mindset, your flaws are just a TO-DO list of things to improve, failures are temporary setbacks. .

In a fixed mindset, you stick with what you know to keep up your confidence.

In a growth mindset, you keep up your confidence by always pushing into the unfamiliar, to make sure you’re always learning.

In a fixed mindset, you look inside yourself to find your true passion and purpose, as if this is a hidden inherent thing.

In a growth mindset, you commit to mastering valuable skills regardless of mood, knowing passion and purpose come from doing great work, which comes from expertise and experience. Leaders who want feed back if they have a growth mindset.

In a fixed mindset, you believe if you’re romantically compatible with someone, you should share all of each other’s views, and everything should just come naturally.

In a growth mindset, you believe a lasting relationship comes from effort and working through inevitable differences.

In a fixed mindset, it’s all about the outcome. If you fail, you think all effort was wasted.

In a growth mindset, it’s all about the process, so the outcome hardly matters.

Fixed mindset:

The brain becomes most active when receive information how the person performs (grade or score)– worries about what others will say with judgement – see growth as an effort as a bad thing, incapable so they lose interest or withdraw to protect ego (lack of motivation)

Growth mindset: Brain becomes most active when receive information – What they could do better next time, – focus most on learning – see effort as a way to grow – set backs are a part of growth and move on

Dr. Preformed a test: had children to do a set of puzzles and praised the kids

Fixed: “That is a good score, you must really good at this”

Growth: “That’s a good score, you must have tried really hard” (focus on the process)

When they asked the kids again to do a puzzle easy or hard – Fixed chose easy and Growth chose hard.

They all received the same puzzle. Results: Fixed scored very low and even lied about their scores because they couldn’t cope with their failure, however the growth actually did better.

States of mind or life perspectives are developed in one’s childhood environment and passed down from generation to generation.

Kids: How often do we tell our kids “You are a winner – cause you won” – fixed mindset – so when they lose, they believe they are a loser.

Our mindset is shaped basically from age 0-6 as we get approval or disapproval from our parents. GENERATION TO GENERATION – children are replicas of parents because of this.

Recognize that it is a fact and neuroscience is proven

Understand you can change because of God

Listen to God, listen to what you say to yourself and when you talk to yourself do it with a growth mindset with growth statements.

Beliefs are the blending of logic and emotions

Once established, beliefs are accepted as fact . They become our “personal operating system.” Believe in Santa/Tooth Fairy

Much like the operating system on your computer, our beliefs control how we sort and file every bit of input data.

Everything we see, experience, think and feel is adjusted to fit with our beliefs.

Our version of reality is a creation of our beliefs. We conform to what we believe.

Mindset – We can shift our fixed mindset to change thinking. These 4 was Medicine, Exercise, Diet, Stress (power of mindset)

  1. Pain meds delivered to patients – doctors who gave meds vs IV got better and healed quicker
  2. Maids exercise – Questionaire to maids – they believed they were burning more calories equivalent to exercising and they lost weight
  3. Shakes given to people – same shakes ( sense shake vs indulgence shake) given to people different times (what we believe, think, what we expect to determine our body response) some lost weight with the sense shake because they believed they would
  4. Work/Stress – (3 min video clips. MINDSET OF STRESS? Media tells us that stress us horrible – but if we look it as truth of stress is just uncertain. Our mindset determines our response. (video clips were given to half the group stating positive stress can be such as energy alertness, etc (reports: higher performance – sleeping better etc due to stress as positive) 

Our mindsets determine our response to anything and everything we do in life.

Believing to be true….. our beliefs determine our response. HOW DO WE SHIFT OUR MINDSET?

That’s what’s holding you back from God’s best. John 10:10 Life more abundantly

Why Is a Poverty Mindset So Destructive – It is because it is FIXED

A poverty mindset is incredibly destructive because it puts us in the role of helpless victim.

AS Joyce Meyers says “You can be pitiful or you can be powerful, but you can’t be both.”

God wants us to be powerful spiritual warriors.  And he wants us to prosper, not play the victim.  

The ENEMY tempts us to sit back as spectators to our own destiny AS We believe everything that happens to us is the result of outside forces and that we have no control over our lives or we say.

God is in control, so I’m sure He’ll figure everything out eventually and make my life better.”

4 Signs You Have A Poverty or Fixed Mindset

Blaming others is a sign of poverty and a sign of fixed mindset melissa phillipsClue #1: Blame

You blame the economy, you blame the government, you blame the stock market, you blame your employer (or your employees  You blame your parents.  You blame your spouse, you blame your kids.  You blame your genes or your thyroid’s or hormones and even your temperament.

It’s always something else or someone else. The problem is always anything or anyone else, but you.

Clue #2: Justify

Or you justify your situation by saying you “don’t really care”.  Ignore the bills…You justify being broke by saying, “Money isn’t important,”.

Not a single missionary can remain on the field without money.  Not a single medical facility can operate without money.  No church can keep it’s doors open without money.

God told Abraham:  “I will surely make you prosper”  Genesis 32:12

The Lord was with Joseph so that he prospered  Genesis 39:2

Walk in obedience to all that the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live and prosper.  Deut. 5:33

The Lord will grant you abundant prosperity—in the fruit of your womb, the young of your livestock and the crops of your ground  Deut. 28:11

Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.  Joshua 1:8

Well, you get the idea.  I could go on listing verses.  But the message is clear.  Faith and diligence bring prosperity not poverty.  Period.

When are we going to stop throwing God under the bus, limit Him and limit ourselves.

complaining is the result of a fixed mindset melissa phillipsClue #3: Complain

Complaining is the absolute worst possible thing you could do for your health: spiritual, physical, emotional, mental, relational and yes, even financial.

There is a universal law that says, “What you focus on expands.”  That’s why God commands us to focus on the positive (Phil. 4:8) .  When you are complaining, what are you focusing on? What’s right with your life or what’s wrong with it? You are obviously focusing on what’s wrong with it and since what you focus on expands, you’ll keep getting more of what’s wrong.( YOU WILL FIND YOURSELF LONELY BECAUSE NO ONE WANTS TO HEAR NEGATIVITY.

Clue #4: There is no personal development in your life. While this doesn’t apply to everyone, a lot of people “suffering” from poverty don’t spend time to work and better themselves. Instead of investing their time on something that will give them a return, they spend money on things that will only make them feel better in the present moment.


  • WATCH: those who you admire and wish to become, it allows you to pick up their behaviors, values, and even their visible ethics.
  • Expand your vision through higher goals and standards. Always be learning!
  • Stop believing that there is someone, or something, out there that will magically guide you out of bad financial times into good ones.
  • Take personal responsibility
  • Realize that nothing is owed to you. However realize that God has created you therefore your belief of limitations is limitless.
  • Cultivate an environment for success…you become who you are around. If you spend a lot of time with people consumed with meaningless things, you will get meaningless results.
  • Motivate and inspire others. In return, this allows us to gain new personal development skills and mentalities.

According to the Bible, our identity is not found in what we possess, it is found in who possesses us.  Our lives are hidden in Him and the actions that we take are actions of faith.  We are not identified by our meager possessions nor or we chained to our current capabilities, we are identified by our Father–who created us to be a reflection of Him and I know He doesn’t have a limited belief nor did He create junk. .



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The Power of Positive Thinking

 Thinking positive attracts positive outcomes!



Romans 12:1-2

Verse 1 says that we should present our bodies — that is, our whole active life — as a living sacrifice which is our spiritual service of worship. So the aim of all life is worship. That is, we are to use our bodies — our whole lives — to display the worth of God and all that he is for us in Christ. Now it makes perfect sense when verse 2 says that, in order for that to happen, our minds must be renewed. Why? Because our minds are not by nature God-worshiping minds. They are by nature self-worshiping minds. That is the spirit of our minds.


The term “the will of God” three biblical meanings.

First, there is the sovereign will of God, that always comes to pass without fail.

Second, there is the revealed will of God in the Bible — do not steal, do not lie, do not kill, do not covet —

And third, there is the path of wisdom and spontaneous godliness — wisdom, where we consciously apply the word of God with our renewed minds to complex moral circumstances, and spontaneous godliness where we live most of our lives without conscious reflection on the hundreds of things we say and do all day. Romans 12:2.

Mentally first then fruit on the outside. “Transform” So transformation is a profound, blood-bought, Spirit-wrought change from the inside out.

Regardless of temperment/environment/how we were raised etc….

When it comes down to it, positive, optimistic people are happier and healthier, and enjoy more success than those who think negatively. The key difference between positive and negative is how what we think about and interpret the events in life.

Research is beginning to reveal that positive thinking is about much more than just being happy or displaying an upbeat attitude. Positive thoughts can actually create real value in your life and help you build skills that last much longer than a smile.

First seek to understand before being understoodPositive and negative thoughts can become self-fulfilling prophecies: What we expect can often come true. Persistent negative thinking can cause mental health problems, including depression.

The first step in controlling your thoughts is awareness.

Identify your negative thoughts. Cognitive behavioral therapy practitioners believe that we have the ability to change our behavior by changing our thoughts. Thoughts are the catalyst that lead to behaviors.


The first step in changing negative thinking is to become aware of it. For many of us, negative thinking is a bad habit – and we may not even know we’re doing it!


  1. Negative people rarely know what they stand for; they only know what they stand against. If the person you’re dealing with isn’t “for” anything positive, they likely have a negative worldview.
  2. Compliments are usually followed by the word “but”. A positive person (and even a neutral person for that matter) can give a compliment. Negative people can’t. What starts out positively (“I really enjoyed the event today”) is inevitably followed by a “but” (“but had they turned the volume down and shortened the message it would have been better.”)
  3. They aren’t accomplishing much with their life. Truly negative people rarely accomplish anything great. Because they are against so much, few people want to work with them. Stalled out careers, a history of frequent job changes, financial trouble and other similar markers often characterize negative people.
  4. They have no vision for the future. A negative person is almost never excited about the future. They have no compelling vision for what should be. They can just tell you why your vision is wrong. When you ask them for alternatives, they rarely have original or well-thought-out ideas.
  5. People who are negative have an issue with pride. They think they are better and smarter than you and by how they talk down at you makes them feel good and it puffs up their oversized ego. Their comments aren’t there to help you; they are there to make you feel inadequate and dumb. When they make you feel dumb, they feel superior and that is where all of this negativity fester from.

Quick TEST:

New Job: (do you think “what if I can’t do this or am I good enough?)

Exercise (do you think pain, change, time, discipline – or my body is going to look great and I can be healthy to live longer) Or, if you feel bad about not exercising or not eating healthy, all you think about is how little willpower you have, how you’re lazy, and how you don’t have any motivation.

Vacation (do you think $$ wasted, work to pack & plan or let’s go and relax and have good time)

Let go from job ( it must have been something I did, or wasn’t good enough or the company is going thru a slump)

Call/email from someone you don’t talk to often (what do they want or try to sell me something or I can’t wait to connect to them.

The waitress brings you a water instead of a tea, do you complain about it so much that everyone at the table knows about it, and get them to bring you another one or do you just drink your water and think it’s no big deal?

Do you think about her day?  Do you try to understand the other person first without getting upset cause you didn’t get what you ordered?


When you see anyone’s name come up on your caller ID, you get an immediate emotional reaction to it. Sometimes you’re thrilled to see the name and can’t wait to take the call. Other times you’re neutral. But sometimes you wince. Whether it’s a phone call, a text or an email, you respond negatively and quietly think “oh no.” That’s a sign that the person’s overall influence in your life has been negative, not positive.

How do you have a positive mindsetWe all have negative moments in our life…. 

Even DAVID was negative especially when he had his “pity party” moments, yet he still knew who to call upon for help.  As Christians we may have our faults and our times of negativity due to the circumstances, however we must keep the faith of knowing where our help comes from. 

Psalm 13 O LORD, how long will you forget me? Forever?

How long will you look the other way?

2How long must I struggle with anguish in my soul,

with sorrow in my heart every day?

How long will my enemy have the upper hand?

3Turn and answer me, O LORD my God!

Restore the sparkle to my eyes, or I will die.


Definition: Negative thinking is the tendency to take the most unfavorable view of situations, or to expect the worst outcome in any circumstances; the practice of looking on the gloomy and dark side of things.

Positiveness is optimism; the tendency or habit of seeing and expecting the good in things; looking on the bright side; anticipating favorable results; hopefulness.

Bible says a lot about negative thinking….

  1. Giving place to negative thinking only bears bad fruit.

Proverbs 23:7 [If you give place to negative thoughts, you will become a negative person.] For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.

Proverbs 15:13 [Sad and negative thoughts weaken our spirits and lead to discouragement.] By sorrow of the heart, the spirit is broken.

Luke 6:45 [Those whose hearts and minds are filled with negative thoughts usually spread them by voicing them.] A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good: and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.

Romans 8:6,7 [Negative thinking is not walking in “newness of life,” but in the old carnal nature which is against God.] For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. 7 Because the carnal mind is enmity [hostile] against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be. [See also Eph.4:17.]

1 Corinthians 13:5 [If we’re walking in love, we don’t think negatively towards others.] [Love] doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil.

Hebrews 12:15 [Harboring negative, critical thoughts can lead to bitterness.] Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God, lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled.


Eph 4:21 Since you have heard about Jesus and have learned the truth that comes from him,throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes.

Take every one of your thoughts (beliefs, imaginations, dreams, and ideas) captive to the obedience of Christ. (II Corinthians 10:5)

Since all of your emotions, words and actions originate in your mind and heart, you can wake up every morning with the assurance that you have the power to control how you feel, what you say and how you act all day long.

No one is a victim. Guard your heart; you are what you think. (Proverbs 23:7) Also, whatever thoughts you sow into your mind, you will reap the consequences. (Galatians 6:7) You become what you think!

Spend a few seconds reflecting on what you are today and what you have. Everything about you is the result of what you have been thinking your whole life.

Day dreaming is thinking, planning is thinking, imagining is thinking, reacting to circumstances is thinking and wishing things could have been different for you is thinking. Your beliefs are your thoughts grouped together over many years.

One of the greatest truths in life: It’s not what happens to you (your past, present or future circumstances) or what people do or say to you that cause your emotions.

 Your emotions come from what you think about after things happen to you! You control all of your emotions by what you think. Emotions are simply data telling you what you have been thinking.



Also, listen to your words and watch your actions and let them tell you what your heart looks like.

We can over ride any past thoughts and transform my life by the renewing of my mind

Let your mind dwell on only these eight powerful, life-changing words: true, honorable, right, pure, beautiful, adorable, excellent and praise worthy. (Philippians 4:8, 9)

No one controls how you think and thus, no one has the power to control how you feel, speak or act any longer.

You are never the victim of others or circumstances.

What Negative Thoughts Do to Your Brain

Let’s say that you’re walking through the forest and suddenly a tiger steps onto the path ahead of you. When this happens, your brain registers a negative emotion — in this case, fear.

Researchers have long known that negative emotions program your brain to do a specific action. When that tiger crosses your path, for example, you run. The rest of the world doesn’t matter. You are focused entirely on the tiger, the fear it creates, and how you can get away from it.

In other words, negative emotions narrow your mind and focus your thoughts. At that same moment, you might have the option to climb a tree, pick up a leaf, or grab a stick — but your brain ignores all of those options because they seem irrelevant when a tiger is standing in front of you.

This is a useful instinct if you’re trying to save life and limb, but in our modern society we don’t have to worry about stumbling across tigers in the wilderness. The problem is that your brain is still programmed to respond to negative emotions in the same wayby shutting off the outside world and limiting the options you see around you.

For example, when you’re in a fight with someone, your anger and emotion might consume you to the point where you can’t think about anything else. Or, when you are stressed out about everything you have to get done today, you may find it hard to actual start anything because you’re paralyzed by how long your to–do list has become.

In each case, your brain closes off from the outside world and focuses on the negative emotions of fear, anger, and stress — just like it did with the tiger. Negative emotions prevent your brain from seeing the other options and choices that surround you. It’s your survival instinct.


What Positive Thoughts Do to Your Brain

Fredrickson tested the impact of positive emotions on the brain by setting up a little experiment. During this experiment, she divided her research subjects into 5 groups and showed each group different film clips.

The first two groups were shown clips that created positive emotions. Group 1 saw images that created feelings of joy. Group 2 saw images that created feelings of contentment.

Group 3 was the control group. They saw images that were neutral and produced no significant emotion.

The last two groups were shown clips that created negative emotions. Group 4 saw images that created feelings of fear. Group 5 saw images that created feelings of anger.

Afterward, each participant was asked to imagine themselves in a situation where similar feelings would arise and to write down what they would do. Each participant was handed a piece of paper with 20 blank lines that started with the phrase, “I would like to…”

Participants who saw images of fear and anger wrote down the fewest responses. Meanwhile, the participants who saw images of joy and contentment, wrote down a significantly higher number of actions that they would take, even when compared to the neutral group.

In other words, when you are experiencing positive emotions like joy, contentment, and love, you will see more possibilities in your life. These findings were among the first that proved that positive emotions broaden your sense of possibility and open your mind up to more options.

TALK ABOUT LEAVING A LEGACY! You create the environment. That is power in your thoughts!


  1. Keep a gratitude journal. Remind yourself of your blessings.
  2. Focusing on the positive. Push out all feelings that aren’t positive. When you hear the voice in your head say something negative, take a pause and substitute the negative for something positive.ONLY focus on the good things in your life. Realize that your thoughts do not own you. Stop letting negative thoughts control you.
  3. Only use positive words when talking. Stop CURSING your self!
  4. Practice positive affirmation. One of the most popular positive thinking exercises is positive affirmation. This means you repeat a positive phrase to yourself on a regular basis like “I deserve to be happy” or “I am worthy of love”. Believing that these things are true, and reminding yourself of it can help give you a more positive outlook on life.
  5. Believe you will succeed. Believe in yourself.
  6. Forgive yourself. Stop being your own worst critic. Don’t dwell on mistakes.
  7. Let go of the past. It does not determine your future so why focus on it? If you feel yourself ruminating on the past make a conscious effort to take your thoughts in another direction.
  8. Remember things could be worse. Understand that the situation is not forever.
  9. LOOK at your circumstances as an opportunity. Look at the big picture. Visualize a successful outcome.
  10. Relax and let things happen. See it from another point of view.
  11. Avoid negative people.
  12. Do something nice.
  13. Avoid laying blame. So the water bill didn’t get paid. You could get mad and start a fight with your spouse or roommate. Or, you could let it go, take it in stride and work together to remedy the situation.
  14. Be playful. Engage in physical activity – DO SOMETHING NEW.
  15. Listen to something upbeat. Music can be a great mood enhancer.
  16. Monitor your stream of consciousness. Focus on great memories – PHOTOS
  17. Concentrate on breathing. When things just seem to be too much to deal with, try concentrating on simply breathing.
  18. Find something to laugh about.
  19. Face up to change.
  20. Focus on finding a solution. Don’t wallow in your problems. Instead, work towards finding a solution and getting them resolved. You’ll be able to feel proactive and feel in control of your life.
  21. Believe the world is a good place.
  22. Stop making excuses. Take control of your decisions.
  23. Don’t play the victim. Bad things happen to everyone from time to time. Pitying yourself and wanting others to feel sorry for you isn’t going to make things better. Pick yourself up and start working towards a happier future.
  24. Don’t place your future in someone else’s hands. Your future is yours alone to shape. Remember this and take control of where you’re going in life.
  25. Create realistic goals.
  26. Choose joy. Every day when you wake up you make the choice whether to be happy or miserable.
  27. Believe you deserve good things and know who you are in Christ. If you don’t truly believe that you deserve good things in your life you likely aren’t going to encounter many. Believe that you are worthy for good fortune to come your way and it just might.
  28. Sometimes all it takes to feel good is to put a smile on your face. Practice putting on a happy face even when you just feel so-so.

Positive thinking usually attracts positive people, events, and outcomes. If you want to create an environment where you’re successful and satisfied, you’ll need the power of positive thinking on your side and that comes with renewing your mind with God’s Word and having Jesus centered in your life.

Our life becomes a spiritual act of worship and displays the worth of Christ above the worth of the world, when we allow him to renew our mind. Are you ready to put that into action?  Leave a comment below and let me know your great tips!

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Intentional Living of Leaving A Legacy

This is my Mother’s Day message for 2016.

God was intentional when He created us. We are leaving a legacy!

Psalms 139:1-8, 13-15, 23-24

A psalm of David. O LORD, you have examined my heart and know everything about me. You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when I’m far away. You see me when I travel and when I rest at home. You know everything I do. You know what I am going to say even before I say it, LORD. You go before me and follow me. You place your hand of blessing on my head. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, to great for me to understand! I can never escape from your Spirit! I can never get away from your presence! If I go up to heaven, you are there; if I go down to the grave, you are there.

Vs 13: You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous–how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.

  1. Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life.


In every cell in your body is a copy of you. The human body consists of 60 thousand billion cells of which nearly every single cell contains our entire genetic information, the DNA. Inside the cell, DNA is found inside and outside the nucleus. Our children are our legacy through DNA but also through actions, beliefs and lifestyle as they continue to grow.

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The pattern in DNA is not like a language it is a language. It is a coding and decoding system. DNA is the carrier of our genetic information, and is passed down from generation to generation.

At conception, a person receives DNA from both the father and mother. We each have 23 pairs of chromosomes. Of each pair, one was received from the father and one was received from the mother. These 23 pairs of chromosomes are known as nuclear DNA because they reside in the nucleus of every cell in our body.

The 23rd chromosome is known as the sex chromosome. As with the other chromosomes, one is inherited from the father, and one from the mother. The 23rd chromosome from the mother is always an X. From the father, a person either inherits an X chromosome or a Y chromosome. The chromosome inherited from the father determines their gender.

We also inherit our mitochondrial DNA, mtDNA, from our mother, and none from our father. Mitochondrial DNA is located outside the nucleus of the cell.

The DNA of God in us

So each of us inherits our mtDNA from our own mother, who inherited her mtDNA intact from her mother, and so on back through the generations – hence mtDNA’s popular name, ‘the Eve gene’.

Ultimately, every person alive today has inherited their mitochondrial DNA from one single great-great-great-. . .-grandmother, nearly 200,000 years ago.

However, if all the Eve chromosomes in the world today were an exact copy of that original Eve mtDNA, then clearly they would all be identical.

When mtDNA is inherited from our mother, occasionally there is a change in one or more of the ‘letters’ of the mtDNA code – about one mutation every thousand generations. The new letter, called a point mutation, will then be transmitted through all subsequent daughters. Although a new mutation is a rare event within a single family line, the overall probability of mutations is clearly increased by the number of mothers having daughters.

So, within one generation, a million mothers could have more than a thousand daughters with a new mutation, each different from the rest. This is why, unless we share a recent maternal ancestor over the past 10,000 years or so, we each have a slightly different code from everyone else around us.

It was in 1953 that James Watson and Francis Crick achieved what appeared impossible—discovering the genetic structure deep inside the nucleus of our cells.

A teaspoon of DNA, according to molecular biologist Michael Denton, could contain all the information needed to build the proteins for all the species of organisms that have ever lived on the earth, and “there would still be enough room left for all the information in every book ever written”

DNA in our cells is very similar to an intricate computer program. A computer program is made up of a series of ones and zeros (called binary code). The sequencing and ordering of these ones and zeros is what makes the computer program work properly.

In the same way, our DNA is made up of four chemicals, abbreviated as letters A, T, G, and C. Much like the ones and zeros, these letters are arranged in the human cell like this: CGTGTGACTCGCTCCTGAT and so on. The order in which they are arranged instructs the cell’s actions.

What is amazing is within the tiny space in every cell in your body, this code is three billion letters long!!

It has been determined that 99.9% of your DNA is similar to everyone’s genetic makeup. What is uniquely you comes in the fractional difference in how those three billion letters are sequenced in your cells.

Who placed this working code, inside the cell?  God did!  We are so unique and special we cannot even fathom or take it for granted how God made us and how much of a miracle we are!

John 10:10 The thief comes to steal, kill and destroy. But Jesus came to give us life (eternal life) and life more abundantly – full and overflowing.  The thief is not always the enemy of our soul but our mindsets, our beliefs in how we were raised or from our environment.  If we are kept from learning the truth from the Word of God, we lack the potential of being a life full of abundance.

The description of the thief : Unstable – riding the fence – selfish purposes, and for the ruin of the flock.

The thief is not only the adversary of our soul but a mindset- Bad principles are the root of bad practices.

In my 20’s – pregnant and barefoot – learning how to love and give

30’s – felt a breath of fresh air – just started to have my time – thinking about career yet still parenting – lots of up and downs parenting

40’s – teaching, training, career, lifestyle changes – breaking habits – improving

50’s – purpose and fulfilled journey

At any age, remember it’s a process – each experience takes us one step closer to our purpose on our spiritual journey if you let it.

As mother’s we also are more nurturer – the ability to care and want to help others.   All women and men are born with this but depending on how you were raised and your environment will determine if that grows and matures into a loving person, a giving person, and of course a godly person.

By human nature we are selfish beings but some quickly learn or takes a lifetime to learn that being selfish will lead you down a path of regret and even loneliness with the decisions and choices you make in life.

Treasure the time you have with your children – your ministry is with your children.

Living Intentional:

  1. Always improve yourself (readers are leaders – you become what books you read or TV programs you watch) Growth should be invited and welcome and that means Constance change.
  2. Don’t feel fulfilled in your Spiritual Walk? Habits, Environment, Time of change to surround yourself with Christian people – go to church – be involved – be the person who others want to follow         (you are the average of the top 5 people you hang around with) AND do you know the number one problem or pet peeve you may have with someone is something in yourself you have and want to change but don’t know it?
  3. Tired of being stuck in a rut? Be willing to change and be teachable
  4. Want others to treat you better? Improve your people skills – be kind, smile, be friendly
  5. Want children to improve? Improve your actions
  6. Tired of being frustrated or irritated – Improve your gratitude, volunteering to those less fortunate
  7. Unhappy with your health? Make lifestyle change, eating habits and exercising
  8. Tired of not having money or living in debt? Reduce your lifestyle that is conducive to your income or switch jobs – find another type of income that doesn’t effect the family time
  9. Wanting success and fulfillment? Serving others
  10. Angry of Life’s Circumstances or being a product of your environment whether in the past or now? Work through those issues to create a better you to help others. Don’t stuff and get bitter but get better, God has given you this incredible ability to rise above the hand that may have been dealt to you. We don’t just say get over the past, but use it as a stepping-stone to help others.

We all have a purpose in life and the quicker we can find our purpose the fulfilled we become. We don’t reach a magic destination but it’s a progress on our journey. As a mother, as a pastor, as a teacher, as a photographer, as a counselor, as a Jesus lover, as a wife, as your friend, I am here to help you find abundant living!

Know you are important, know you are created by God for a unique purpose because the DNA you contain is the Word of God, therefore you have the ability to create a world of abundant living with intentional living!